What A Cell Block!

Did you see that IPhone 6 plus be a negative on our date?


Below is a video on how technology interfere with a relationship even on a platonic level. Also a caution for mature rated language. If not comfortable with the language, please shy away from the video even though it emphasizes the negative concept of cell phone use with friends.
Obviously everyone understands that as technology advances, so do we. So why is that our social skills regress when technology is placed in front. This study will present the facts of how technology adversely affects our relationships between people, regardless of the level of interaction, romantic, platonic, or acquaintances. It will focus on the correlation of technology on a relationship, how social media has changed our generation, and social norms.


The concept of social media, technology, and our social norms is quite simple. The better the use of technology the better our lives go. Technology allows us to connect with people farther away and bring them "closer together" however, why is it that someone 5 feet in front of us is so far away at the same time? To quote straight from an article, "that many members of the digital generation may fail to develop vital communication skills because they prefer virtual contact over face-to-face conversations." (Clemmitt, Media Explosion). This is due to a little more study showing that humans are no longer wanting face-to-face communication; as well as, the social norms are based on how many "likes" we get from random strangers on our Instagram instead of society norms.
As you can see from the graph below, the percentage of teens using their phone to communicate compared to talking face to face is low in every age except 17.
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(Lenhart, Teens and mobile phones)


Below is a list of various methods used to conduct this research.

  • Testimonies
  • Online research (databases)
  • Compilation from other research of multiple demographics
  • Small survey taken at my work place with a demographic of 21+

These research steps have omitted extra outliers in order to narrow down a more concise and accurate research. The demographic online is mostly compiled of teenagers because a majority of teenagers are affected by technology and it has been an escalating problem. While another method was a small survey being passed along at Wild Horse Pass Casino which had a demographic of 21+ in order to get a more overall judgement. 3 Testimonies were taken from coworkers which is comprised of a lady bachelor aged 22, a single mother of 26, and a married mom of a newborn aged 30. (All respective to Worker A,B, and C)


Technology Interference Survey

In my findings, starting with the survey sent out in my restaurant within a casino, the results are inconceivable. The survey was sent out with the guest's bill at the end of their dinner with the demographic of over 21.

The questions are basic starting with:

  1. Do you use your phone during an outing with friends, co-workers, family, or significant other? The results to this from about 50 surveys to keep it simple is 46 yes to 8 no. That is roughly 92% of the survey takers using their phone's during an outing.
  2. When a conversation with another slows down or falls off, do you resort to technology to enhance the conversation? Most people responded to this question as a yes, however it was not used to enhance the conversation. Only 2 people reacted to the question stating that they use their phone to show off pictures or videos, but the majority 48 shy away from a conversation when it falls off.
  3. Do you feel like technology prevents you to hold a conversation? This question sparked the most controversial opinions. The findings were 35 yes to 15 no. As shown, this question was a bit closer compared to the other two where the answers were absolute on way or another. The majority responded with a yes saying that technology puts up this psychological wall to prevent each other from paying attention. While the other 15 voting no, had suggested that technology instead can fill as a buffer between conversations.

Social Media Interference

In 2012 of July, the number of Americans using social media had risen to 172 million, which is an equivalent size of a country (Clemmitt, Media Explosion). In this section of research on the interference of social media on human relationships, it clearly shows that people no longer want to converse face-to-face or that their conversational skill has decreased by social media."social media may end up having profound effects not just on privacy but on both individual human relationships and how people relate to their communities." (Clemmitt, Media Explosion). Another clear example discussed in a paper from Marcia Clemmitt's "Social Networking", is that the use of Facebook's new facial recognition allows people to "recognize their friends" without actually knowing them. Facebook will naturally link the photo with a facial recognition for you therefore there is no need to remember your "friends".

Social Norms

The social norm now is to get as popular as you can based on your followers and likes with the ongoing apps and devices, however it is clear as day that you can never replace face to face communication. "At the end of the day, nothing can replace face-to-face conversation and interactions. Despite the explosion of online endorsements and social media dialogue between individuals and brands, researchers have found word-of-mouth exchanges and in-depth conversation are still most influential." (Fowlkes). However something to take in account is that a norm is an unwritten rule of what is "correct" to do; therefore, people just don't mind being a little shameless. "The study also found that even when there is an opportunity to see people face-to-face, on weekends for example, up to 11% of adults still prefer to stay at home and communicate on their devices instead" (Fowlkes). Rather then going out on a weekend to enjoy with friends, they stay inside and communicate with their friends on the devices instead.
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Notice that spending time with friends is still lower on the list compared to text messages. (Lenhart)


Whether it be social media, a dinner date, or a social norm, it appears that people's conversation skills are still lacking. Relaying on the fact that social media is the size of a country and accessible every few seconds, this prevents people from interacting face to face. Fowlkes has discussed that people still rather stay on their devices instead of hanging out, even though at the end of the day, face-to-face conversation is the best kind of interaction. As well as with social media, dialogue can be a bit more mundane. Then we have Clemmitt with two different articles speaking about how social media builds up a wall with the person 5 feet in front of you. This is detrimental to a person's skill when it comes to networking and conversing. With the advance of technology, Lenhart has a graph to display the negative affect of it on teens before reaching 18, with mobile phone being the most common form of contact rather then face-to-face.


It is clear as you can very well tell from the research material above and the negative output of technology, social media, and social norms, have on the affect of our communication skills with each other. Little by little as we advance, our speaking skills with each other fade and deteriorates at a fast pace, being replaced by virtual conversations and minimum effort. Clearly with a statistic of 172 million people on Facebook alone, it is shown that people can no longer leave their phone untouched on a dinner table for no less then 10 minutes. The conversation skills are declining based on multiple research done on multiple demographics from young to old. As well as the social norms being reflected into society as a form of conduct based on your use of social media. This calls for a reflection on your own personal actions. Is that little device in your pocket preventing you from your end goal? Just leave it alone for 30 minutes and enjoy your awkward conversation with the person across from you, it can't get any worse then being on your phone.


Fowlkes, James. "Viewpoint: Why Social Media Is Destroying Our Social Skills." Why Social Media Is Destroying Our Social Skills. USA TODAY College, 11 Oct. 2012. Web. 07 Apr. 2016.

Lenhart, Amanda. "Teens and Mobile Phones Over the Past Five Years: Pew Internet Looks Back." Teens and Mobile Phones Over the Past Five Years: Pew Internet Looks Back. Pew Research Center Internet Science Tech RSS, 18 Aug. 2009. Web. 07 Apr. 2016.

Clemmitt, Marcia. "Remote Access to Library Databases." Social Media Explosion. N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Apr. 2016.

Clemmitt, Marcia. "Remote Access to Library Databases." Social Networking. CQ Researcher, 17 Sept. 2010. Web. 07 Apr. 2016.

A Few co-worker's testimonies with their own personal experience talking about how technology has adversely affected their lifestyle with one another. In order to keep it anonymous I have agreed to label them as Worker A,B, and C.

Worker A: I feel as though when someone has a phone in front of their face, our conversation just ends, like "Oh, guess it's time to check Facebook or Twitter and other social media instead of talking to each other".

Worker B: I don't feel like technology really affects us that much, I mean if it was a serious date then I would like to put it away but I feel like the night will end up the same, it just depends on how you carry the conversation out.

Worker C: I am extremely against it. As a married woman, whenever I tell my husband something on a dinner outing, he seemed to always ignore it while on his phone or say "sure" or "true". Then in about 10 minutes I would get a response.

About Myself

Age 20


A little about myself is that I work in a high table turned restaurant meaning that I consistently have to introduce myself to new people and hold a conversation. I often have to come across wonderful guests that have a cell phone glued to their forehead while I attempt to interact with them for my job. This is rather difficult and can in turn be negative. I have also seen a relationship consisting of two individual sitting at a booth together simply on their phone; therefore, I have decided to start this research paper to see if that situation is negative to a relationship or not. Growing up and still with my group of friends, we rarely use text messages to converse or have social media on the dinner table when together; however, we do still converse by making cell phone calls to each other. I feel like the less we use our phones, the more can be discussed and enjoyed when with each other's company.