How do we live up a single life?

Marriage vs single.

I am 21 years old. At this point of age, I shouldn't have too much convincing opinion to talk about this topic. However, I am really curious about it and I thought about it consistently. A lot of time, when I walked on the street and saw a normal couple walking passed by, I would start to have a question "how would they attract each other for a marriage?" Of course, i don't know the background stories of the couples, but it really led me to a doubt, "Are you really ready for a marriage?"


If you had a couple relationships before, you'll have a better understanding of "the right timing and the wrong person" and "the wrong timing and the right person". Relationship is romantic, but also practical. There are a lot of constraints in a relationship that are against the real life. At the end, you may break up with the one you love and get married with another person. Is the person really the one for you? Maybe not, maybe he/she just appeared at the right timing. So it comes to a question, why do we want to be married just because of the idea that "it's the right time"?


So I would represent the women's side.

When the majority of the women reach the age of 30 and still be single, they would start to be anxious that if they will ever get married. They start to think about their beauty is fading. They start to think about family and kids. It's understandable that no one wants to be forever alone. But here comes to the point, loneliness. They want to have a partner to fill up the rest of their life. At the point, their standards of getting a mate become lower. As long as he's pretty much ok on some important standards.... ok then he is the one.


I know you may think of me as an anti-marriage person. Haha I am not. I have nothing against marriage. I respect people's thought towards marriage. You know.. marriage is personal and complicated. However, what I am trying to bring out is that life is optional. Marriage is a choice; not a compromised procedure. Being single is never a terrible thing if you know how to love yourself and live your life. We, as humans, always miss a fundamental concept of loving ourselves. We devote too much time and energy into other things and people. At the end, we find out we are empty in our souls. And that's the time we want someone to fill up ourselves.


Never be that powerless person.

So let's try it out!

How do I live up a single life?


---- It all comes to a fundamental basis, love yourself. Once you learn to appreciate and love yourself, you will realize you don't need anyone to make you satisfied.


Here are some ways!


1.) Be energized and stay healthy!

Go to gym or have more outdoor activities. You can go on more adventure in your life only if you have a healthy body. Once you start exercise more, energy just automatically stores in your body. You will be more concentrated on your work and more willing to go outside and explore new things. When are feeling physically healthy, you are not far away from being mentally positive!


2) knowledge yourself!

Reading is always needed in one's life. Read books from different areas to broaden your knowledge line. There are so many new things in the world that we don't even know about. Reading is a good way to explore what really interests you. Besides, learn a skill that you have always wanted to learn. It can be anything but just something you are passionate about. Even though it's a challenge, go for it! It's a time for you to meet yourself in a new level.


3) Being open-minded and forgiving

When you live a single life at the 30s, you may hear some voices from other people about your personal life. Always keep in mind that never let the voices to let you down. You are the one to live your own life. You make a decision on your own life. Believe in what you choose to believe. Never try to prove people they are wrong because time prove everything. Having a forgiving heart will keep you up an easy journey.




At the end, I want to share my favorite quote about relationship to everyone, single or not.

"I do not want to have you to fill the empty parts of me

I want to be full on my own

I want to be so complete I could light a whole city

and then I want to have you cause the two of us combined could set it on fire"


-rupi kaur

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