Types of parenting and the affect it has on children

Traditional vs. Nontraditional Parenting

In today's modern times, more and more people are moving away from the traditional family model; a married man and woman with children. It is becoming common for families to consist of same sex parents, single or divorced parents, or teen parents. The traditional family model has historically been deemed what is best for children, however a child's success is not dependent on the type of family they come from but rather on the type of values they were raised with.

Traditional Parenting

Traditional Parents

When a person thinks of a traditional family he or she would think one dad, one mom and their biological children. It seems like the perfect life, or that’s what it has been made out to be in the past. But what most people don’t understand is that this stereotypical family has only been present in a small part of human history (Koontz). Traditional families are looked at as the perfect way to raise a child but in reality the parents raising the child are the biggest factor, not the family structure. Most people would not believe that violence, child abuse and poverty are still very prevalent in the lives of traditional families because the parents are saddled with lots of pressure. Parents in stereotypical families are said to have three full time jobs they must keep up with in their lives (Koontz). Number one is their actual profession they posses. Number two is taking care of the well being of their children and spouses. Then the third job is caring for themselves. All three jobs take up all free time and therefore put a lot of pressure on both parents.

Members of traditional families know the four most important focuses for their family. Maintaining family sanity is one focus and this is exemplified by the fact that traditional families with parents who have time and have lots of interest in their children’s lives eat more meals together and talk to each other more often than others, which ultimately strengthens family bonds. Another important focus is keeping traditions and routines in check. The next focus is the sense of identity in a family, which is exemplified in each parent making time for each child individually and keeping communication open and available. Finally, traditional family parents most likely foster positive character traits such as generosity, empathy and love. Having both a male and female role model strengthens views and importance on subjects (Abbasi). Having two parents has both a positive and negative side.

Same Sex Parents

Same Sex Parents

In todays society, the idea of same sex marriages is looked down upon and many couples are shunned for being parents. This has many harmful effects. The question of whether of not a homosexual couple can be good parents is based on the environment the child is raised in. If a child is raised by two homosexual parents but in an unstable home, that child will be unstable. If a child is raised by two homosexuals but in a stable home, that child will be stable. It is the environment and leadership of the parents. Same sex couples have the same responsibilities as any other traditional family, if not larger ("Same-Sex Parenting"). A man in Houston, TX raised a 17 year old boy from the age of 2. This boy is athletic, intelligent, and kind-hearted. This proves that children coming from same sex parents lead the same life a boy from a different sex couple would lead ("Same-Sex Parenting"). Some say that a children from gay parents lead a life of criticism but, that statement is wrong (Somashekar). Research shows that these kids lead lives just as happily as any other child (Scoon). There is no evidence to support that same sex parents are unfit for the job, there is evidence however to counter that point entirely. The well being of a child does not differ from the types of parents.

Broken Homes

Single/Divorced Parents

The unfortunate statistical reality of marriage today is that roughly half of them fail. This completely changes the traditional family and parenting roles that have existed for over a hundred years. Additionally, societal norms have changed; it is no longer necessary to be married in order to start a family and there are many options for single men and women to have children. The stigma associated with single parents or divorce is typically that it always negatively affects the children. This, however, is not true. When trapped in an unhappy marriage each parent is unlikely to be emotionally transparent with their children. There is also tension between the parents which lessens the relationship that each parent can develop with their child. Many children of divorced parents have reported being happier and closer to each of their parents after the divorce. It is better for everyone to be happy separately than miserable together (Broadbent). Studies have shown that kids with divorced parents who spend equal amounts of time with each parent are likely to have positive relationships with both. The parents are also more likely to remain respectful and confident in each others parenting abilities (McIntosh).
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"Stressless Single Parenting Online Class." Stressless Single Parenting Online Class. Life Matters, n.d. Web. 13 Nov. 2015.

Teen Parents

There are many misconceptions about teen parenting in today’s society. Many people believe that teen parents always regret their children. However, that is not always the case. Many times, statistics such as “38% of teen girls that have a child before the age of 18 get a high school diploma by the age of 22” (Weed). When someone first reads the statistics of teen parents, there is an automatic accusation that the cause of these statistics was because of the fact that they had a child at an early age. However, in most cases, high school dropouts are caused by other things such as poverty, academic struggles, and family instability (Weed). Also, shows such as Teen Mom and 16 and Pregnant give an unrealistic view of what teen parenting is actually like. "Heavy viewing of Teen Mom reality programming positively predicted unrealistic perceptions of what it is like to be a teen mother” (Study: Heavy viewers of 'Teen Mom' and '16 and Pregnant' have unrealistic views of teen pregnancy). There is a lot of controversy on whether or not Teenagers are able to raise a child to be successful. However, there are many misconceptions on the entire concept of Teen Parenting in general.
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Teen Mom. Digital image. Beating the Odds. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Nov. 2015.

Works Cited

Abbasi, Jennifer. "It's All About Family." Scholastic Parent & Child 19.4 (2011): 40. MasterFILE Complete. Web. 11 Nov. 2015.

Broadbent, Sabrina. "Single Parenting Can Be Beneficial." Parenting. Ed. RomanEspejo. Detroit: Greenhaven Press, 2013. Opposing Viewpoints. Rpt. from "When One Parent Is Better than Two." Mail on Sunday 19 July 2009. Opposing Viewpoints in Context. Web. 15 Nov. 2015.

Koontz, Stephanie. "The way we weren't: the myth and reality of the 'traditional' family." Phi Kappa Phi Forum 95.1 (2015): 22+. Student Resources in Context. Web. 11 Nov. 2015.

McIntosh, Jennifer, et al. "Post-separation parenting arrangements: patterns and developmental outcomes: studies of two risk groups." Family Matters Spring 2011: 40. Student Resources in Context. Web. 12 Nov. 2015.

Paterson, E.R. "Weed, Keri. Teen pregnancy and parenting: rethinking the myths and misperceptions." CHOICE: Current Reviews for Academic Libraries May 2015: 1539. Student Resources in Context. Web. 15 Nov. 2015.

"Same-Sex Parenting On The Rise In The South." Tell Me More 3 Feb. 2011. Student Resources in Context. Web. 15 Nov. 2015.

Scoon Reid, Karla. "Estimates Emerge on Number of Students With Same-Sex Parents." Education Week 6 May 2015: 22. Student Resources in Context. Web. 11 Nov. 2015.

Somashekhar, Sandhya. "Social Science Struggles with the Effects of Same-Sex Parenting on Children."Washington Post 26 Mar. 2013. Student Resources in Context. Web. 15 Nov. 2015.

"Study: Heavy viewers of 'Teen Mom' and '16 and Pregnant' have unrealistic views of teen pregnancy." NewsRx Health 2 Feb. 2014: 83. Student Resources in Context. Web. 15 Nov. 2015.