The Cruel Truth
Types of Online Bullying
- Gossip: Posting or sending cruel gossip to damage a person’s reputation and relationships with friends, family, and acquaintances.
- Exclusion: Deliberately excluding someone from an online group.
- Impersonation: Breaking into someone’s e-mail or other online account and sending messages that will cause embarrassment or damage to the person’s reputation and affect his or her relationship with others.
- Harassment: Repeatedly posting or sending offensive, rude, and insulting messages.
- Cyberstalking: Posting or sending unwanted or intimidating messages, which may include threats.
- Flaming: Online fights where scornful and offensive messages are posted on websites, forums, or blogs.
- Outing and Trickery: Tricking someone into revealing secrets or embarrassing information, which is then shared online.
- Cyberthreats: Remarks on the Internet threatening or implying violent behavior, displaying suicidal tendencies
Facts About Cyber Bullying
- 1. Nearly 43% of kids have been bullied online. One in four has had it happen more than once.
- 2. One in three teens has experienced cyber-threats online.
- 3. Nine out of ten middle school students have had their feelings hurt online.
- 4. About 75% have visited a website bashing another student.
- 5. Four out of ten middle school students have had their password(s) stolen and changed by a bully who then locked them out of their own account or sent communications posing as them.
- 6. The psychological and emotional outcomes of cyber bullying are similar to real-life bullying outcomes, except for the reality that with cyber bullying there is often no escape. School ends at 3 p.m., while the Internet is available all the time.
- 7. Over 80% of teens use a cell phone regularly, making it the most common medium for cyber bullying.
- 8. Girls are about twice as likely as boys to be victims and perpetrators of cyber bullying.
- 9. About 58% of kids admit someone has said mean or hurtful things to them online. More than four out of ten say it has happened more than once.
- 10. 90% of victims will not inform a parent or trusted adult of their abuse.
- 11. Cyber bullying has increased in recent years. In a national survey of 10-17 year olds, twice as many children indicated they had been victims and perpetrators.
A Personal Story
I was Targeted
I am 16 and have amazing friends. I can get along with all groups. Although my life is great now it hadn't always been that way. When I was in the 5th grade I met a girl who was in 6th. She was popular and I wanted to be her friend. And we were. Until she found out that earlier that year her friends had bullied me when we were all in girl scouts. She joined along. And wrote me a nasty letter. This stopped after my 5th grade year but I remember coming home crying not sure why I was the girl they just chose to pick on. I've definitely learned from that experience. These girls may be popular but they don't feel happy. They are weak. I believe they saw me and knew my confidence, and tried to break me down. Now I know that if a situation ever happens like that again I will just brush it off. Also, I believe had I not cared and just blew them off in the first place they would have stopped. For any girls going through this be strong.—Guest Marilyn
"Cyberbully follows Taylor Hillridge (Emily Osment), a teenage girl who falls victim to online bullying, and the cost it takes on her as well as her friends and family. Taylor is a pretty seventeen-year-old student dealing with her parents' recent divorce and painfully aware of her lower social status in high school. When her mom gives her a computer for her birthday, Taylor is excited by the prospect of going online to meet new friends without her mother always looking over her shoulder. However, Taylor soon finds herself the victim of betrayal and bullying while visiting a popular social website. Obsessed with the damaging posts, she begins to withdraw from her family and friends, including her life-long best friend, Samantha Caldone (Kay Panabaker). Tormented and afraid to face her peers at school, Taylor is pushed to an extreme breaking point. It is only after this life-changing event that Taylor learns that she is not alone – meeting other teens, including a classmate, who have had similar experiences. Taylor's mom, Kris (Kelly Rowan), reels from the incident and takes on the school system and state legislation to help prevent others from going through the same harrowing ordeal as her daughter."
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Amanda Todd, a Vancouver-area teenager who posted a story to YouTube last month about being cyber-bullied, was found dead Wednesday night in Coquitlam, Canada. Authorities believe she committed suicide.
Amanda's video tells a heart-wrenching story of the bullying she was subjected to -- both online and off. "In 7th grade," she begins, sharing her message on cue cards, "I would go with friends on webcam [to] meet and talk to new people." At one point, a stranger flattered her into flashing the camera.
One year later, a man contacted her on Facebook, threatening to send around the picture of her topless "if [she] don't put on a show." Terrifyingly, the stranger knew everything about her: her address, school, friends, relatives, and the names of her family members. Soon, her naked photo had been forwarded "to everyone."
Amanda developed anxiety, depression, and anxiety disorders, she says in the video, followed by a path into drugs and alcohol.
She changed schools and found a new group of friends in an effort to leave behind the bullies. Then the man created a Facebook profile, using her uncensored photo as his profile picture. "Cried every night, lost all my friends and respect people had for me... again... then nobody liked me," she wrote in the video.