HMS Counseling Newsletter

February 2017

In this issue

Communicating Positively With Your Child

HS Registration Information

Why Should Your Kids Go To College?

Character Education: Integrity

Cyberbully Information

Contact Me

Communicating Positively With your child

Words can hurt. . .sometimes forever!

"You never do anything right!"

"Why can't you be more like your sister?"

"You are so lazy. You'd be a better reader if you would just try."

Words can be powerful and painful, especially when they come from a parent. If our words and our actions show that we love our children unconditionally, they will grow up feeling good about themselves. Hurtful criticism can leave scars that last a lifetime.

Help your child feel good about himself. . .

  • Words, hugs, smiles and patience show your love.
  • Remember that a child spells love T-I-M-E.
  • Take a time-out when you are angry or stressed.
  • Apologize if you say something critical or unkind.
  • Let your child know when you aren't feeling well or are under a lot of pressure. Kids can be pretty supportive!
  • Set reasonable expectations that provide lots of opportunities for success.
  • Encourage and support. "I can see how hard you are trying," or "I know this is difficult for you."
  • Look for positives and build on them.
  • Listen to how your child talks to other children. Are your own words and attitudes being mirrored?
  • Establish fair boundaries for sibling rivalry. No physical or emotional hurting.
  • Create a home environment where everyone is respected.

High School Registration Information

  • Early College Applications are being accepted until Feb 28.
  • Early College Recruitment Video
  • Havelock HS Parent Night is Feb 28 at 6:00 pm in the HHS PAC
  • HHS online registration is Mar 3-12.

Why should your kids go to college?

From an article on

What to say when your child asks, "Why should I go to college?"

1. Make more money. People who graduate from college make more money than those with just a high school diploma. A lot more money, actually. People with a college degree make around $1,100 a week. Someone with a high school diploma makes just $638.

2. Have more opportunity. People who go to college open up their choices for jobs. Many jobs these days require a college degree. Plus, college graduates have less chance of losing their jobs. In 2009, there were 9.7 million unemployed high school graduates, compared with 5.2 million college graduates without jobs.

3. Make connections. In college, students make new friends and other connections that will be helpful when it’s time to get started in a career. Those friends they make in college will help them get jobs, and these connections and networks will help them throughout their lives.

4. Live a healthier and happier life. Studies have shown that college graduates are healthier and are less likely to get divorced. The divorce rate for college graduates who married between 1990 and 1994 is about 25 percent. That’s compared with more than 50 percent for those without a four-year college degree. Plus, people with just a high school diploma are nearly twice as likely to be in poorer health than college graduates.

5. Start a tradition. If your child goes to college, your grandchildren will be more likely to go too: 71 percent of students with at least one parent who has a bachelor’s degree apply to college themselves. Only 26 percent of first-generation students (those with no parent who went beyond high school) apply to college.

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Character Education: Integrity

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Questions for thought: How does this quote reflect Integrity? What does it mean?

Send me an email and give me an example of how this applies to your life. I would love to hear from you.

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