Relationships

Healthy Relationships vs. Unhealthy Relationships

Being Respectful


Respect - listening to one another, valuing each other's opinions, and listening in a non-judgmental manner. Respect also involves attempting to understand and affirm the other's emotions.

Trust and Support

Trust and support - supporting each other's goals in life, and respecting each other's right to his/her own feelings, opinions, friends, activities and interest. It is valuing one's partner as an individual.

SIGNS OF UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Unhealthy Relationships

Using coercion and threats: Making and/or carrying out threats of hurting you; threatening to leave you, threatening to commit suicide or report you to welfare; making you drop charges; making you do illegal things.

Using intimidation: Making you afraid by using looks, actions, gestures; smashing things; destroying your property; abusing pets; displaying weapons.

Using emotional abuse: Putting you down; calling you names; playing mind games; humiliating you; making you feel guilty; making you think you're crazy; making you feel bad about yourself.

Minimizing, denying and blaming: Making light of the abuse and not taking your concerns about it seriously; saying the abuse didn't happen; shifting responsibility for abusive behavior, saying you caused it.
Abusing authority: Treating you like a servant; making all big decisions; acting like the "master of the castle"; being the one to define roles in the relationship.

MAKE SURE YOU ARE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

If you are getting verbally, physically, or mentally abused by you're husband, boyfriend, girlfriend or wife, you are in a unhealthy relationship.