Emotional & Verbal Abuse

Are you a victim?

What is emotional abuse?


Abuse, no matter what kind of it, is any behavior that is used and designed to control and descriminate another human being through the use of fear, humiliation, and verbal or physical assaults.

Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased.

Emotional abuse is like brain washing in that it systematically wears away at the victim’s self-confidence, sense of self-worth, trust in their own perceptions, and self-concept. Whether it is done by constant berating and belittling, by intimidation, or under the guise of “guidance,” “teaching,” or “advice,” the results are similar. Eventually, the recipient of the abuse loses all sense of self and remnants of personal value. Emotional abuse cuts to the very core of a person, creating scars that may be far deeper and more lasting than physical ones

How to help a person who is being abused

Speak Up

Don't be afraid to tell them you are concerned for their safety and want to help them.


Be Sensitive

Acknowledge and try to be understanding of their feelings about their relationship -- remember, many people are in love with their abusers.

At first, they may not take your advice on what to do -- be respectful of their decision and keep being there for them.


Listen

Sometimes the most helpful thing is to just listen and be supportive.


Be There For Them

Encourage them to do things with you, other friends, and family. Get them excited to do things outside of their relationship.



Stay With Them

If they break up with the abuser, keep being supportive once they are single. Healing takes time, but hanging out with friends is a great way to move forward after a bad break-up.

Where to get help

Listed below are websites who can help you if you are stuck in an emotionally abusive situation

www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/

www.dayoneny.org/

www.loveisrespect.org

www.drphil.com/articles/article/21


Emotional Abuse flyer

Made and edited by Chiara N. Schimpe