Eternal Rest Funeral Home

Celebrating Lives with Dignity

How will Your Funeral Tell your Story?

Whether you're making final arrangements for a loved one or making advanced arrangements for yourself we can help you tell your story.

It's Not About Mourning Death It's about Celebrating Life

Plan Your Funeral - Before You Need It!

We believe that planning a funeral in advanced is a financially wise thing to do. Lock in today's prices and save from possible inflation in the future. Avoid emotional overspending by communicating which merchandise and services you want and avoid from purchasing unnecessary additions to your service. Here are a few resources in assiting with handling funeral costs:

https://www.prudential.com/death-claims/funeral-planning

http://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/2014/10/07/how-to-handle-funeral-costs

Additional Resources - Funeral Etiquette


The accepted customs of dress and behavior in a funeral have changed over time, but courtesy never goes out of style. Here’s what we’d like you to know about funeral etiquette.


MAKING THE MOST OF A DIFFICULT TIME


It’s important to know what religious, ethnic or personal considerations you need to take into account. And it’s also important to be respectful of the emotions of close family members.

Here are a few things expected of you:


- Offer an expression of sympathy.
Sometimes we are at a loss for words when encountering something as final as death. Simply saying "I'm sorry for your loss" is usually enough. Be respectful and listen attentively when spoken to, and offer your own words of condolence.

- Find out the dress code.
These days almost anything goes, but only when you know it's the right thing. In fact, sometimes the deceased has specified the dress code; 'no black' is a common request. If you can't learn the wishes of the family, then dress conservatively, and avoid bright colors.

- Give a gift.
It doesn't matter if it is flowers, a donation to a charity or a commitment of service to the family at a later date; as always, "it's the thought that counts." Always make sure to provide the family with a signed card, so they know what gift was given, and by whom.

- Sign the register book.
Include not only your name, but your relationship to the deceased: co-worker, gym buddy, or casual acquaintance from the golf club. This helps family place who you are in future.

- Keep in touch.
It's sometimes awkward for you to do so, but for most people the grieving doesn't end with a funeral.


BUT, WHAT SHOULDN'T YOU DO?

- Don't feel that you have to stay.
If you make a visit during calling hours there's no reason your stay has to be a lengthy one.

- Don't be afraid to laugh.
Remembering their loved one fondly can mean sharing a funny story or two. Just be mindful of the time and place; if others are sharing, then you may do so too. There is simply no good reason you shouldn't talk about the deceased in a happy, positive tone.

- Don't feel you have to view the deceased if there is an open casket.
Act according to what is comfortable to you.

- Don't allow your children to be a disturbance.
If you feel they might be, then leave them with a sitter. But, if the deceased meant something to them, it's a good idea to invite them to share in the experience.

- Don't leave your cell phone on.
Switch it off before entering the funeral home, or better yet, leave it in the car. All too often, we see people checking their cell phones for messages during the services.

- Don't neglect to step into the receiving line.
Simply say how sorry you are for their loss, offer up your own name and how you knew the deceased.

- Don't be too hard on yourself if you make a mistake.
Everyone does, and you can be sure that an apology may be all that's needed to mend and soothe.

When it's all over, always remember to continue to offer support and love to the bereaved. The next few months are a time when grieving friends and relatives could need you most. Let them know that your support did not end with the funeral.

Cemetery Etiquette

A cemetery is a unique place. While it is part of the everyday scene, it is not part of everyday life. That is to say, it is a place where tranquility and quiet are the desired norm, and activities of everyday life should be suspended.


MAKING THE MOST OF THIS UNIQUE PLACE


Be reverent and respectful.
Do not play intrusive music or create noise that would be deemed disrespectful.

Maintain supervision of children.
While the virtue of teaching remembrance to our children is highly valued, often times families have made consequential investments in their memorial tributes within the cemetery which command the utmost care and respect.

Exercise Care in walking within the cemetery.
Walking directly on a grave space should be avoided whenever possible. Doing so is typically considered disrespectful and can cause damage to a coping, headstone or similar type memorial.

Abide by cemetery rules.
The cemetery office will provide a set of policies and rules outlining operating hours, memorials permitted and those excluded, etc. These rules are designed to provide assurance to all families that our goal is to maintain a tranquil and groomed atmosphere for all. Non-permanent type memorials can become weathered and be blown onto others property owner’s property if not properly adhered to regarding type.

We encourage visiting during daylight hours.
While we respect your rights to visit a loved one, we cannot be of assistance during the evening hours and offer this advice for safety reasons as well.

Be mindful of litter.
We encourage you to be aware and if you see any debris that could be considered trash or litter while visiting, please report this to the office so that we can assure everyone a tranquil and well maintained vista.

Leash your pet.
We require that you to leash your Pet while on our grounds in order to maintain control over the pet.

Avoid grasses areas with vehicular traffic.
Drive slowly and be alert to others in the cemetery. Exercise particular care around pedestrians as they may be distracted or in a state of solitude. Paved areas may be more narrow than normal. We recommend caution for safety purposes.

We encourage respectfulness and reverence.
Speaking in a lower volume of voice is encouraged. Positive expressions and or encouragement can help in the healing process.

Solitude is often desired of visitors.
We encourage you to be mindful of others rights to privacy while visiting.

We caution any “contact” with others monuments or memorials.
Most of our client families are very sensitive and protective of their property. Any removal or damage to another’s Memorial will likely result charges for the same. It also could result in the need for repairs if the memorial is aged.

Photo taking is permitted with the exception of photos of other people and or during services without specific permission.
Respect for others cannot be overstated during any visit to the cemetery. You may encounter a funeral procession and or service while visiting the cemetery. A non-distractive distance should be maintained.