EIP Book Review
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
This book is from a very general stance about how to improve your life and can be applied to any setting. Whether you want to improve yourself in a business world or just establish better habits this is a wonderful book. It is especially helpful to teenagers because there are comics, pictures, and teen lingo intertwined throughout to make it entertaining while still being inspiring. I would suggest that adults read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People for a more "grown-up book" with a very similar message. This can be easily applied into my EIP placement because Kellybrook, like many LPS elementary schools, teaches the Seven Habits and emphasizes using these in the classroom.
How I Will Implement This Into My Life
To fully explain how I will use this book study to improve my life, I will explain how each habit can be implemented into my life.1. Be Proactive
The first habit is to be proactive. Covey explains that there are two types of people: the proactive and the reactive. He gives the example of a student explaining "my science teacher sucks, I'm not going to learn anything!" A reactive person would just move on and not learn anything that year. A proactive person has many options: talk to the teacher, get a tutor, or change teachers. Being proactive is all about changing the situation you are in to how you want it to be, instead of just accepting the situation. To become proactive, my main goal will be to learn more at school, rather than just doing the work.
2. Begin with the End in Mind
I love the analogy Covey uses for this habit, he says that if you start 1,000 piece jigsaw puzzle you wouldn't get very far if there was no picture to follow. This is the same in life, if you have no plan, there is nothing for you to work towards. But a lot of people don't realize they aren't working towards anything. To make this a habit, you must frequently set achievable goals . When setting your goals it's important to remember two main things: one, you can and should have multiple goals (one for school, work, friends, etc.) and two, your goals can adapt with changing situations. To achieve this habit, I will start making clear goals for many aspects of life, I can't state the goals yet because I haven't had time to deeply think about them.
3. Put First Things First
Prioritizing responsibility is something I really struggle with; I don't plan ahead well and when the due date is approaching I often only have time for homework. I really like that Covey agrees that school cannot always be put first, but this is only true if you're able to plan ahead. He states you should plan for 15 minutes every week. I will start to spend at least that 15 minutes every week planning my schedule, I'll probably have to spend longer than suggested because this is something I struggle with.
4. Think Win-Win
I love that the book is not only improving yourself but also improving your relations with others. Covey explores many different relationships and describes how you become victim to each one. The most important part of this chapter is the nine suggestions of how to change your relationships to be win-win. To implement this in my life I will try change my attitude to be win-win at all (most) times.
5. Seek First to Understand Then to Be Understood
"You have two ears but one mouth" is an amazing motto to live by. It's not only about listening to someone, but actively listening. You must engage in conversation and have a genuine interest in what the other person is saying. It is obvious when you aren't interested because 53% of communication is through body language and 40% is through tone/feeling, only 7% is through actual words. To make this a habit I will be conscious in my communications with others and try to listen more than I talk.
Syngergizing is all about working with others to make it a win-win situation. To successfully synergize, you must identify the problem, see it from the other person's side, explain your side, and then find the best solution, a compromise of both people. I sometimes struggle seeing other people's sides because I know how I like to have things done. To try and fix this, whenever there is a problem I will try to see the other side instead of being blinded by my own.
7. Sharpen the Saw
The last habit is all about "me time" . The other habits are useful, but I think this one is the most important. It's extremely important to know how to take care of yourself. It's crucial to put yourself first sometimes, even when you're stressed and overwhelmed. I think this is going to be very important for me especially during the stress of senior year. I'm going to a lot time for myself to relax and do things for fun.
2. Why are these the habits the ones LPS decides to teach their students?
3. Does this work better in elementary students or younger kids than in teenagers or adults because they grow up using these habits?