East Side News

Week of February 29. 2016

Teaching Our Kids to Care

As you know, I always state that a child's first education is in the home. Parents and caregivers are the first teachers of their children. I like what Jacob Urist stated in his blog from the Today Show: "Every parent has probably said, “play nicely” or “be kind to your sister.” And most of us agree that we want to raise caring children But is kindness something you can really teach? Yes — but most of the teaching is by example."

Here are four ways to help bridge the kindness gap and raise kids to be kind:

1. Walk the walk. Children understand kindness through everyday interactions with their parents, Gordon said. Empathy begets empathy, in her view. “The way you speak to someone when they come to the door or respond to your child even when tired,” she explains, “are how your child learns to model behavior and treat other people.”

2. Talk the talk — give them kind language. Julie Masterson, professor of communication science and disorders at Missouri State University and author of "Beyond Baby Talk," says learning empathy and language go hand-in-hand. She defines kindness as the ability to take another person’s perspective and then tailor your words and actions accordingly.

Masterson describes her reaction to her 2-year old grandson, who will occasionally play favorites between his grandparents and announce: “I don’t want Mama J. I want Papa J.” While she assures parents these types of statements are age-appropriate, to model kindness, it’s crucial to respond by validating a toddler’s feelings, giving them another perspective to consider and encouraging them to “use kind words.” Masterson tells the little boy: “It’s nice that you want Papa J, but Mama J also wants to be with you.”

For older kids, Masterson recommends asking explicit questions about unkind behavior or language: how do you think that makes another person feel? What is it like to be in their shoes?

“There’s nothing incompatible with achieving at a high level and being a kind person,” promises Richard Weissbourd, psychologist and co-author, with Stephanie Jones, of the Harvard education study. “In every race, class and culture, you see families with successful children who are also focused on raising them to be caring and respectful.”

3. Reward big acts of kindness, but don't go overboard. Weissbourd, who runs the Making Caring Common project, advises parents to reward “uncommon acts of kindness” — like if a child starts a lemonade stand for a good cause or goes out of their way to help someone. However, Weissbourd says we shouldn't praise children for everyday helpfulness like taking out the trash or playing with a younger sibling. “That everyday kindness should be expected,” he said. “That’s how it becomes part of who we are, part of our identity.”

4. Force them out of their comfort zone to teach empathy. If students haven’t learned compassion and generosity by the time they’re 18, it’s unlikely that they learn “kindness” in a lecture hall or seminar, according to Shelley Kagan, professor of philosophy at Yale University. Instead, he believes young adults should interact with people from different backgrounds, to learn how to place themselves in someone else’s shoes — whether that means taking a summer job that gets them out of their comfort zone or living in a different culture.

The good news for parents is that based on evolutionary biology, children are, in a sense, hardwired to become kind. “We know that in groups where people cooperated, they flourished, but in groups where they did not, they died out.” said Stefan Klein, author of "Survival of the Nicest: How Altruism Makes Us Human and Why It Pays to Get Along." Luckily, the story of human evolution is not only survival of the fittest, he explained. It’s also survival of the kindest.

Oh, The Places You'll Go with READING!!!

We had a great and AWESOME reading throughout the week with some great themes and a few mystery readers. We read over 1,000 books and met our goal!! WHOA HOO! Let's continue to read, read, read! Thank you all for participating in our PARP program! Check out a few pictures below!
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Check out some cool pictures from PARP week!

Math and Movement Fun Night Helpers Needed

The East Side Math and Movement Family Fun Night is here on March 17th. We need volunteers! If you are interested in volunteering for this fun event, please complete the Google form by clicking here or call Natalie at 287-7881 and leave a message. Thanks for your help!


East Side PTO Meeting

Wednesday, March 9th, 6-7pm

111 Gleason Street

Gouverneur, NY

Please join us as we plan activities for our kids at East Side School!

Pre K and Kindergarten Pre Registration

We are gathering names for the 2016-2017 Pre K and Kindergarten pre-registrations. Click on the link here to access the pre-registration process! Thank you!
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What's coming up!

  • 3/7/2016: 1st and 2nd Grade Movie Night - (See flyer sent home!)
  • 3/9/2016: PTO Meeting 6:00p.m.
  • 3/17/2016: Math and Movement Fun Night

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