Four Different Styles- Which one is for you?


Neglectful parents are completely disengaged from their children's life. This parenting style is not responsive nor supportive. The parents themselves seem to care little about their children and tend to be cold with little love. This style is notorious for a hands off approach, occasionally arising accidentally from a busy work schedule. Although some experts claim that this style can foster independence, most children grow up to possess emotional problems and tend to perform poorly in school (Vikamsey).


Permissive Parenting is characterized as lenient. Permissive parents are more like friends than parents. Permissive parents leave decisions up primarily to the kids, and let the kids learn from there mistakes. Pros of permissive parenting include endless love and affection, and great relationships between the parent and child. Children who undergo this type of parenting are known to struggle academically, contain behavior problems, and have low self-esteem (Vikamsey).


Authoritative parenting focuses on setting limits, while additionally providing the child with enough freedom to make their own choices. By taking aspects of Authoritarian and Permissive, the Authoritative approach allows the ability to guide the child without prohibiting them from learning the lessons themselves. The short middle ground between being too strict and granting too much freedom is popular around the world, and studies state that kids under these conditions tend to be independent, socially accepted, and well-behaved (Martinez, Isabel, and Garcia). Some controversies remain that this style demands more energy and time from the parents, and puts more pressure on said parents to constant govern on a high-level (Vikamsey).


Authoritarian parents come off as very controlling and demanding of their children. These parents will try to control every aspect of their child's life and expect unquestioned obedience. Some parents use the Authoritarian style because it will establish dominance early on, letting the child know who is the boss. Most of the time kids will develop into rule following, self motivated children who never stray out of line. They know their rules and see the fine line of what is wrong and what is right. Although there are positives from it, Authoritarian parenting is called one of the worst styles because there is a lack of communication and affection between parents and their children. Kids usually tend to grow distant from their parents later on and may potentially become secretive and rebellious. As adolescents, kids may also develop insecurities and self esteem problems (Vikamsey).

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