From the Brian Mendler Official Blog, June 10, 2014
I firmly believe that understanding why a student is misbehaves is the key to changing that behavior. Once understood, it is easy to realize how ridiculous many of the traditional consequences we currently use are.
Imagine you are a doctor and five patients come to you with a runny nose. You give them all tissue. The next day all come back. You give more tissue. Again they come back. This cycle goes on until you start asking some questions. You quickly learn the first person has allergies. The second refuses to wear a hat when it is cold out, and the third is a cocaine addict. The symptom (runny nose) is the same. The solution to the symptom is completely different for all. Without understanding why the runny nose exists, it is almost impossible to properly treat any of the patients. View detention, in-school suspension and suspension as tissue. They might wipe the problem away for a few minutes, but none fix the real underlying issue.
Difficult behaviors in a classroom should be viewed as nothing more than a symptom. For example, calling teachers names or throwing something are often symptoms of a frustrated, angry person. Really frustration and anger are the problems. Teaching the student how to handle these emotions and then practicing what to do are the true solutions.
There are five basic reasons why students misbehave. Meeting a person’s basic need for Power/Control, Competence, Belonging, and Attention will almost always change behavior quickly. Understanding “why” will immediately make you better than most of your colleagues.
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COMING SOON! Classroom Acknowledgement Postcards!
What does this mean for you? Every now and then, we challenge you to send home a postcard or two with a student you'd like to acknowledge. All you need to do is write their name on the front, check off the acknowledgement on the backside, and then sign and date it!
Already using your own acknowledgement system in your classroom? No problem! These were just another resource created for you - enjoy! :)