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Parent Newsletter: January 22

Dear FFMS Students, Parents and Guardians:

I hope everyone had an enjoyable three day weekend despite the snow and cold temps. This week students will be taking the Pro-Core B assessments during their academic periods. It's important that the students do their best to be able to evaluate their growth from the beginning of the year when they took the Pro-Core A assessment.


Have a great week.

Mrs. Hiler

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High School Scheduling Fair- 8th Grade

On January 30th, 8th grade students can attend the High School Scheduling Fair from 5pm-8pm. During this time, students can learn about course offerings, and pathways as well as schedule their classes for their freshman year. The eighth grade teachers will be there to help guide your child. There will also be information on the College Credit Plus Program. Free Food will be offered so come hungry.

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The Neurological Reason Why Your Middle Schooler Acts Like a Toddler


"Adolescence is a period of rapid changes. Between the ages of 12 and 17, for example, parents age as much as 20 years." ~ Author Unknown

If your middle schooler is no longer recognizable from the sweet, funny, and pleasant child you knew during the elementary school years, you are right. There’s a huge transformation going on inside their head. The middle school brain is undergoing a massive re-wiring, which will continue for several more years. But you can avoid your own aging, and support that brain development – as long as you are armed with the right strategies.

What to Expect and How to Improve the Wiring

During middle school, adolescents’ surging hormones and still “under construction” emotional control centers combine to produce behaviors that sometimes appear incomprehensible to rational adults. Events or changes most adults think inconsequential may seem huge to adolescents as they experience inexplicable mood swings. Similarly, concerns that you consider obvious and important may be interpreted as inconsequential by the still-incomplete frontal lobes (section of the brain) of adolescents.

What appears to be bad judgment, irrationality, or selfishness in your child most likely represents their brain’s normal, and temporary, developmental transformation. At a time when their bodies rapidly mature and they are able to take on more academic challenges, their brain’s networks of emotional self-awareness and self-management churn in the chaotic state of rapid transformation. Frequent circuit overloads and disconnections are part of the transformation as their adult control networks evolve and mature.

The good news lies in the outcome of their brain reorganizations. Emerging will be the construction of their brain’s executive function networks. These circuits in the prefrontal cortex, or front part of their brain, will ultimately provide the “top-down” control of emotional self-management, meaning they’ll be better able to control their emotions and actions. Even better, as these neural networks go through rapid change during middle school, the brain is extremely responsive to building strength and efficiency. This means that the guidance and opportunities you provide to put these networks to work will power-up and enhance their growth and ultimate potentials.

The system you’ll tap into to help your middle schooler boost his emotional self-management brainpower works through a process called neuroplasticity. The way neuroplasticity works is similar to how exercise builds muscle bulk. Each time a brain network (such as ones for controlling impulses, evaluating risks, or planning ahead) is activated, the stronger and more efficient that brainpower control system becomes. Simply, the act of using judgment to make a decision will build these circuits.

RELATED: Middle School Featured Topic: Self-Management

Lead by Example

It is particularly during those moments when your middle schooler’s actions or choices push your buttons that you need to connect with your own brain control networks to remain calm in their storm.

It will help you make reflective responses to their actions (or inaction), if you keep in mind that even when your adolescent acts out, zones out, seems irresponsibly scattered, or does things to push you away, that she is living with a rapidly-changing brain that doesn’t yet know what it wants. If they seem like they’re all over the place, they are. At moments like these, think of your middle schooler as you would a frustrated young child acting out from hunger, frustration, or being overtired. Like small children, mostly they need a hug and attention to their basic needs.

Your adolescent, like that toddler, does need you to provide boundaries and hold her accountable for her actions. But, also like the toddler, she needs you to be the calm, supportive parent you were in her younger years when she had those similar lapses in her emotional control.

How to Boost Emotional Brainpower Through Setbacks and Rule Breaking

It is completely reasonable to be frustrated by your middle schooler’s setbacks, failures, or rule breaking, and to follow through with appropriate consequences. But how you handle consequences can have a big impact on your tween’s character and emotional-control strength building.

Setbacks are particularly powerful stressors for adolescents but also teachable moments. Examples include poor grades on tests or assignments for which they think they were well prepared, projects not completed on time even through they tried to stick to a schedule, math problems unsolved despite their efforts, misunderstanding complex textbook reading, or suffering the embarrassing spotlight of making mistakes when called on to answer a questions in class. By helping to support your tween through setbacks and rule breaking, you can turn frustration into learning.

Setback do’s and don’ts

  • Don’t criticize character. Avoid direct criticism of his character, such as accusations of being lazy, inconsiderate, or untrustworthy. The brain is programmed to withhold effort when goals are believed to be out of one’s capacity. If you label his actions with negative words he will begin to believe these are unchangeable flaws and part of his personality, character, or intelligence. His brain will resist further effort.

  • Do remind your child of their maturing brain. When she is in emotional turmoil and feeling hopeless or blaming herself, let her know that her brain wiring will ultimately mature and control her choices, emotional responses, and grow and strengthen every day.

  • Do focus on the positive. When she is stressed out by setbacks, look for the positive part of her action to acknowledge, or remind her of a time when she did have the outcome she wanted and reassure her that setbacks are a normal part of that rapid growth.

  • Do be supportive. Try to offer positive comments that recall similar times when she successfully used good judgment, effective decision making, or planning ahead as evidence that these brainpowers are indeed present and growing in her.

Rule-breaking do’s and don’ts

  • Do set a good example. It can sometimes be difficult for middle school children to distinguish fact from opinion. For their morphing brains, the distinction between right and wrong may be blurred. You are their model and they will often mirror your practices of tolerance, forgiveness, open-mindedness, and respect for others.

  • Don’t forget they can’t always control everything. Recognize that lapses in judgment, such as failure to comply with rules, are usually not intentional or fully in your child’s top-down control. Keep in mind that until your middle schooler’s brain finishes developing, their networks for controlling impulses, evaluating risks, or planning ahead, are still programmed for immediate gratification.

  • Do listen, and keep your cool. When they have lapses in judgment or break rules, what becomes most important to their progress is keeping a dialogue ongoing. Listen, without interrupting or scowling, to all they want to say before pouncing with your questions or laying on consequences. Before discussing consequences, help them reduce their stress levels. Your calming words and demeanor will let them connect with their higher brain control systems to permit a productive conversation about how they’ll prevent the infraction in the future. For example, recognize and appreciate their honesty in the face of adversity when they tell you they cheated on a quiz or drove with a friend who didn’t have a driver’s license.

As a parent of a middle schooler, you are critically important in guiding your child through these tumultuous years. Now is when his or her brain’sacademic, emotional, social, and ethical development is at its most sensitive responsiveness. Your guidance and the model you set will serve as a lighted pathway to construction of the social-emotional skills, personal values, and self-reliance your child needs to both thrive now and achieve their future dreams.

This piece is part of a week-long series with tips for how parents can help their kids survive middle school. Check out some of the other posts about middle schooler's developing brians, how to survive social drama, navigating academics, and a tear-jerker from NBC News Anchor Kate Snow. More to come each day this week!

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FFA Overtime

All Felicity 7-12th graders are invited this Friday after the basketball game against Bethel! Lots of food, friends and fun and FREE!

Cardinal Active Learning Lab- Logo Contest

Our school is working hard to make the Cardinal Active Learning Lab a great space to have fun and learn. What we need your help to create a logo. FFLS is having a contest for a student-created logo for the Cardinal Active Learning Lab. We want your amazing artwork! All entries must be submitted by dismissal on Tuesday, January 22nd. The winner will receive a copy of the logo as a 3D printed object, or as an engraved image from our laser cutter/engraver !

Middle School Craft Club

Just a reminder to have the Craft Club permission slips signed and turned in by January 22nd. The January session has been canceled and the next craft club date will be February 20th-2:30-4:00.

Upcoming Events


January 22- 25 - Pro-Core B testing

January 23rd- Basketball Game - Hamersville (Girls Home)

January 24th- Basketball Game - New Richmond ( Girls Home)

January 28- Basketball Game- Batavia ( Girls Home)

January 30- Basketball Game - Bethel ( Boys Home)

January 30th- Eighth Grade high school scheduling (5-8)

January 31st- Basketball Game- Williamsburg ( Boys Home)

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Attendance

School starts at 7:30 am and ends at 2:30 pm. Every hour of the school day counts, so please try and have your child to school on time. If your child is absent please call 513-362-5307 by 10:00 am.

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