Death and Grieving

That was Then, this is Now

In, That was then, There is now, Death is a large part of the first chapters, After Charlies death Bryon and Mark both take it differently, While Bryon largely blames himself for the death, Mark brushes it off and ignores that it happens. "I would rather die a meaningful death than to live a meaningless life.

Corazon Aquino

S.E. Hinton displays that death happens and eventually you will have to push through it. Through the mind of Bryon it is shown that he dwells on it for a while and eventually comes to term with the death of Charlie, his friend who died defending him and Mark from Texans
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The above image shows that death is not always when your heart stops, death is when you lose something that you live for, something that you care about. Bryon dies a little inside at the end of the book when he figures out that Mark hates him. Mark lost a huge part of his life, his best friend, when Bryon turned him in to the police.
The Fray - How to Save a Life
The above song is How to Save a life by The Fray, which talks about how losing a friend is like death, quickly and non fixable.

How to save a life lyrics

Step one, you say, "We need to talk."
He walks, you say, "Sit down. It's just a talk."
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left and you stay right
Between the lines of fear and blame
You begin to wonder why you came

Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

Let him know that you know best
'Cause after all you do know best
Try to slip past his defence
Without granting innocence
Lay down a list of what is wrong
The things you've told him all along
Pray to God, he hears you
And I pray to God, he hears you

And where did I go wrong? I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

As he begins to raise his voice
You lower yours and grant him one last choice
Drive until you lose the road
Or break with the ones you've followed
He will do one of two things
He will admit to everything
Or he'll say he's just not the same
And you'll begin to wonder why you came

Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

How to save a life

How to save a life

Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
How to save a life

How to save a life

The lyrics shown above are how to save a life, it is said multiple times, "Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend. Somewhere along in the bitterness. I feel like this is an amazing representation of Bryon and Marks relationship throughout the story.
To me death is not just physical, but emotional and spiritual, Losing someone you care about deeply is like a smart part of you dies, because they're no longer there with you. Even if it isn't through death, such as a family member moving, a mom and dad going through the divorce processions, or a friend drifting away from you after being friends for many years. Emotional death is hard to see and understand, but often it leads to a greater situation for those who feel it. Death is not only physical in That was then, this is now. It is also emotional, as Bryon blames himself for what happened to Charlie.
In the above link is a page that describes grieving processes that many people can demonstrate, but mostly children. Grieving is a large part of the healing process that proceeds death. Grieving can be done over a large period of time or a short period of time and varies drastically from person to person.

Death in my life

In my life I have only witnessed two deaths, My aunt Phoenix, and my Great Aunt Theresa, I was really young when my Aunt died, but I remember not believing it was true, and i was only 14 when my Great Aunt died and it was really hard on me, at the funeral I was okay until the songs she wanted played were played, I broke down and couldn't believe she was gone, she had been fine the week before and i came home to my mom's house on a Sunday and she told me and I couldn't believe it, She was on life support and was taking medicine to keep herself alive, and she told the doctors she had enough and that she wanted to be taken off the medicine. I couldn't believe how much pain she was in for the weeks leading up to her death, as she never let on. And I'm really not all the way over her death, but its getting easier and easier to get over it, and eventually I'm going to come to accept it.
The three above pictures are different forms of death, based on possible religion, science, or personal feelings of different people.
In my opinion there are multiple forms of death, not just physical. There is spiritual death and emotional death. There is also multiple forms, or stages, of grieving, as shown in the article below.

Definition of Grieving

cause great distress to someone
Roses for Mama

A song about death of a young boys mother and getting roses