HMS Counseling Newsletter

December 2016

In this issue:

Helping your child succeed in school

Military and Family Life Counselor Program

Feeling Strung Out

Contact Information

Helping Your Child Succeed in School

From Parent Pages: Prevent Child Abuse NC


Many children at all grade levels experience frustration and failure at school not because they lack ability, but because they do not have adequate study skills. Good study habits lay the groundwork for successful work habits as adults.


Set Guidelines

Homework is an important part of school. It is the teacher's way of checking to see how much your child understands about what is being taught in the classroom. The best thing you can do to help your child successfully complete their homework is to set guidelines around when where, and how homework will be completed.


  • Provide a place where you child can do their homework without interruptions. The space should be comfortable, well lit, and consistently available.
  • Find a time for studying that works best for your child. SOme kids need to do their homework right after they get home from school or they risk being too tired to complete it in the evening. Others need to come home, relax for awhile, and then tackle their homework.
  • Eliminate distractions. Consider factors such as having the TV or radio on. Some children actually work well with music as background noise. TV distracts both eyes and ears, and does not mix well with studying. Also, set guidelines about receiving phone calls and visitors during designated homework time.


Get Organized

Once you have established where and when assignments will be completed, help your child collect all the supplies they may need to complete their homework. Keep the supplies easily accessible to where they will be working. These supplies may include, pencils, paper, pens, highlighters, glue, index cards, markers, dictionaries, tape, and calculators.


  • Encourage your child to use a calendar/agenda to keep track of homework assignments and special school projects.
  • Have your child share their daily assignment list with you so you know what the nights workload will be.
  • Keep the phone number of another child in the class in case your child needs to ask a question about the assignment.


The Parent's Role

Take an active role in supervising homework and asking about assignments, but remember there is a big difference between "supervising" and "doing."

  • Be available to answer questions and to help your child prioritize the assignments.
  • Make sure you attend all parent/teacher conferences.
  • When possible, participate in school functions.
  • Use your local library for more than books- story hour, getting videos, attending special activities- to show your child that learning is a lifelong process.


Getting Extra Help

If your child seems consistently frustrated by a particular subject or their grades seem to be slipping, contact your child's teacher. Discuss your child's situation with both the child and the teacher. The teacher may be able to arrange to spend time one-on-one with your child or help your child locate a peer to work on the task with. You may also consider finding a tutor for your child. Try to find one who is trained in or who specializes in the subject your child is struggling with. Help your child remember that it is okay to ask for help.


By helping your child with homework and studying, you not only improve their chances of achievement in school and in life, but you can help develop your child's confidence, self-discipline, and sense of responsibility.

Military and Family Life Counselor Program

Did you know? HMS has a Military and Family Life Counselor! MFLCs provide a wide range of support to military children and youth, family members and staff who work with children by:


  • Engaging in activities with children and youth
  • Providing behavioral interventions in classrooms and assist staff in setting and managing boundaries
  • Modeling behavioral techniques and providing feedback to staff
  • Being available to parents and staff to discuss interactions with children
  • Facilitating small groups



MFLCs can address issues such as school adjustment, deployment and separation, reunion adjustment, parent-child communication, and fear/grief/loss.

Please let me know if you would like more information.

Feeling Strung Out

The winter holidays are a joyous season. It is a time when families share treasured traditions, customs, and beliefs with relatives and friends far and near. But quite often our efforts to create the "perfect holiday" for our families result in undue stress on parents and children alike. And in the process, we tend to lose sight of what is truly important.


As we enter into the holiday season, reflect on those things which mean the most to your family. Sit down as a family and rank in order those traditions and rituals which are most important and then focus on those this holiday season:

  • enjoying family and friends
  • exchanging gifts
  • sharing with those less fortunate
  • hosting or attending holiday festivities
  • celebrating religious traditions and beliefs
  • enjoying a few days off from job and school
  • decorating the home
  • enjoying special traditions
  • baking and preparing holiday goodies
  • making preparations for a new year
  • other:__________________________


from Practical Parent Education.