How To. . .

Make Good Decisions

1. Understand how decisions affect you later in your lifetime.

It’s kind of like a board game. If you pick the card that says “go to blue space,” it might seem cool to get the “blue space” but in the future, that blue space might be bad. Making bad decisions like doing drugs, and/or alcoholism, might be “fun” at the time, but will affect your future drastically. College might not except you, addictions will form, and it might even affect relationships that could’ve grown.

2. Know what is happening with relationships when making a decision.

Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, mom/dad, grandma/grandpa? Are these people important to you? If they are, you might want to be careful with your actions. Making bad decisions might affect your relationships with these people. These people would be very disappointed in you for the bad decisions you make, and could possibly not want to see you for a while! That would be awful. Relationships are important. Hold onto them.

3. Know how it affects others.

If you decide on a good decision, something as little as walking to the library with a friend after school, this will affect a ton of people. Your mom might have to change plans to come pick you up after you get what you need at the library. Your friend might have to get a ride home. Some guy in a car might have to stop the car because you’re walking in front of him. What you do each day affects other people. If you make a bad decision, think of the consequences for others.

4. Make sure you want to make your decision.

If your friends are telling you you have to make this decision….first of all get new friends. But when you make a decision, really look into it and see if this is what you want for yourself. Not what others want. If your family makes bad decisions, don’t automatically think it’s right. Family is extremely important, but if they try to convince you or push you into making a bad decision, push them back. You make decisions for yourself. Don’t let others convince you that it’s right, when it’s not.

5. Don't just use common knowledge. Make sure the things you know actually affect you.

What you "know" about the different decisions you can make when trying to decide, may not all affect you. Before thinking about all of these things, you need to know the information that really affects you. Not just general people. For example, if something you know about one decision you can make is "you can get a free trip to the Bahamas." What if you have work that day? That wouldn't apply to you. Always think about what things can actually apply to you and what things can't.

6. List your ideas.

After or during thinking about all these things, list what you think and know about the information you gather. You don't want to forget anything you learn. You can also list the pros and cons of the different decisions you can make. Listing and writing what you know will really help get the information into your mind. After writing all this down, read it out loud to hear out loud what you are thinking about, so you can get a clear vision on what you want to do.

7. Make your decision.

This is what you've been waiting for all along. Make your decision. If you can't decide yet, give it some time. Sleep on it. Whatever you want to do, but don't think about it too much to the point of stressing. Stress is not needed when making a decision. Take deep breaths if you start to feel overwhelmed. If the decisions you want to make are something as little as pancakes or waffles for breakfast, you don't need to do all this. Although, big decisions require lots of thinking. I hope this article helped.
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