Anonymous Advice Column
Advice by BB
I'm writing this to you because I'm really desperate on a topic, which is about my parents. They fight alot and its driving me and my sisters crazy.We just don't know what to do anymore because each time is getting more and more out of control, and i cant help them screaming at each other. i just want to leave and never experience that again, because is a horrible feeling if you hear it over and over again. i just want them to divorce to end their battle, which they want to make it better but each time it fails so why keep doing it if its not going to work. Please i need your help on what to do with all this.
My Parents Drive Me Crazy.
- Dear My Parents Drive Me Crazy,
What you are going through is tough and many people have gone through it, but what you have to remember is that your parents need to figure things out on their own and the best thing you can do is talk to your parents about how the situation is affecting you and you guys can come to an agreement about them arguing.
I don't know what to do because I don't live with my parents and I was thinking about going back to my original country because I really miss my mom but if I go back I won't have the same opportunities I have here in the United States. What should I do!??
Think about your future and which option will have the best outcome in the long run whether it is staying in this country or going back to see your mom. In my opinion it is best to put yourself into each situation and imagine what would happen if you chose either one, how your your environment, lifestyle and other important things would change then decide.
My best friend and I got into an argument the other day because she was taking pictures with a guy I told her I had a crush on and the problem is not that they were hanging out, its just that I thought she would be more understanding of me liking him rather than hanging out with him without even telling me. Please help...
- Dear Boy Problems,
Did you try talking to your best friend about the pictures and if you did and she did, does she like him or where they just hanging out? If she admitted to liking him, you should just let the situation go because a real friend would not go behind your back doing things like that. If the boy you have a crush on is interested in her, don't get mad at her. Feelings cannot be controlled. However, you should let your best friend know that what she did was not okay. You have a choice of talking things through and keep being friends with her or discontinue a friendship over a boy, which is not the best option.
I'm a full time student and i have a part time job. School has been very stressful and things at home have been tough. Teachers sometimes think that we don't want to do our homework and we slack off but they have no idea what we go through at home. Easy for them to say its okay when they aren't the ones who are going through that situation. I love my parents don't get me wrong but one day if fine with my dad and then the other its like hell. He thinks solving problems by yelling at me is the way to solve things. My life hasn't been easy and I try to push my self in life but when you have that one person your supposed to love with all your heart bring your self-esteem down how can you walk forward when your pushed two steps back. Classes are getting harder, and things are coming up to fast. How can I concentrated with all this b.s. going on in my life. Please give me some word of advice that cant have hope for my situation. Thanks.
School and Problems
- Dear School and Problems,
There are times in life where things might seem like they are just not going your way no matter how much you try. Keep in mind that nothing bad lasts forever and there are many things you can do to feel better. You can always have friends help you if you feel like you do not understand a certain subject, go to the career center for help during a free period, do work during lunch or get up a bit earlier to study and do work. It might be a lot of work at first, but it will help you catch up and get help in the areas you need to focus on. Now about the situation you have with your dad, parents sometimes do not know how to deal with stress they deal with on a regular basis and might be taking it out on you. I recommend you talk to him about how you feel and when you feel as though he is in a bad mood, let him know that he is raising his voice and avoid the argument from escalating by talking to him when someone else is around to help manage the yelling and make sure you guys are both calm.
I'm having problems with my mom. We don't get along like we used to. She used to be able to finish my sentences and she ALWAYS knew what I was thinking. We were so close. Lately, I have just been feeling like we've been drifting. I can't even talk to her about it because she's always occupied with something else. I don't mean to sound like a spoiled brat but I need her right now. It's gotten to the point that the only time we talk is if we need something from each other. What should I do because talking to her isn't really working?
Can't take it anymore
- Dear Can't Take It Anymore,
Your mom might be dealing with a lot of things right now whether it's work related or personal problems but you can tell she cares about you since you guys have had a close relationship for a really long time. Try spending quality time with her and trying to do nice things for her that might ease things up on her and will help her notice your effort and have more free time to spend with you as well. You can always go out to eat with her, go get your nails done together, or do something more affordable like a home spa day or cook for her and try letting her now about how you have been feeling during this time.
Dear BB,Hi im writing because i know a girl who has genital herpes and it got me thinking how disgusting that is to not know when someone has oral or genital has because its not noticeable on sight and i want to know how i can protect myself????
- Dear Paranoid,
The best thing to do is to remain abstinent, however if you are sexually active correct and consistent use of latex condoms can reduce the risk of genital herpes. Latex condoms protect areas that are covered by the condom however, outbreaks can occur in areas that are not covered by a condom therefore the best thing you could do is make sure both you and your partner get tested before having sexual intercourse and regularly as well to avoid transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. Also do not share drinks, food or any personal items with anyone and avoid any direct contact using your mouth. As long as you know those around you, your partner as well as your body, you will be safe.
I have been dating this guy that used to be my ex. I feel that he doesn't care much for me as he used to when we dated the first time. He doesn't text me that often. And when he does it takes forever for him to reply. I still love him. I don't know if I should keep going with this relationship or just give up. We do hang out when ever we have time because we both work.
- Dear Boyfriend Problem,
Sometimes relationships are not the same after a break up and what you are going through is inevitable, what you need to ask yourself is if you really do love him enough to adjust to the changes in your relationship or do you not feel the same anymore which makes you question your relationship. Have you talked to him about what is going on? Maybe he also feels a change in you that you might not notice but is causing him to react differently towards you. Whatever it is, if you guys both love each other, you will work things out and will both make an effort to make each other feel comfortable and loved. Do not be afraid to let him know how you feel because he might not know that he is slowly pushing you away, you have the power to either make things work or move on simply by just talking to him.