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Cox Mill HS - Student Support Services (S3) - 8.26.20

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SOCIAL EMOTIONAL LEARNING (SEL)

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Learning to Be a Better You

People with strong social-emotional skills are better able to learn and thrive. Social-emotional skills are often categorized in five ways (CASEL):


  1. Self Awareness
  2. Self Management
  3. Relationship Skills
  4. Social Awareness
  5. Responsible Decision Making


Social-emotional skills are fairly universal regardless of culture or background and contribute to success in all settings. Specific skills within these five realms are outlined below.


This year, our school (along with all Cabarrus County Schools) will be implementing initiatives to better support students' in the social-emotional realm as we all try to learn and grown within the limits the pandemic places on us. Starting next week, your teachers will begin talking with you about what Social Emotional Learning (SEL) will look like at Cox Mill High School this year. In the weeks that follow, all students will engage in short SEL lessons inyour classes once per week on a rotating basis.


Very soon you'll be able to learn more on the S3 webpage, where our weekly SEL lessons will be posted each week. We hope our students and their families will review these lessons together and engage in discussion on these important topics. Lessons will be archived so students and families can easily revisit them as life presents opportunities for reinforcement.


Email Ms. Landon, School Counselor, or Ms. Kohler, School Social Worker, if you have any questions. Stay tuned for other SEL tidbits in future editions of The Teal Times.


Credits: SEL Topic Calligraphy Images by Suhani A. (CMHS - Class of 2024)

Self Awareness

The ability to accurately recognize one’s own emotions, thoughts, and values and how they influence behavior. The ability to accurately assess one’s strengths and limitations, with a well-grounded sense of confidence, optimism, and a “growth mindset.” (CASEL) Learn more here!


  • Identifying emotions
  • Accurate self-perception
  • Recognizing strengths
  • Self-confidence
  • Self-efficacy

Self Management

The ability to successfully regulate one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in different situations — effectively managing stress, controlling impulses, and motivating oneself. The ability to set and work toward personal and academic goals. (CASEL) Learn more here!


  • Impulse control
  • Stress management
  • Self-discipline
  • Self-motivation
  • Goal-setting
  • Organizational skills

Responsible Decision Making

The ability to make constructive choices about personal behavior and social interactions based on ethical standards, safety concerns, and social norms. The realistic evaluation of consequences of various actions, and a consideration of the well-being of oneself and others. (CASEL) Learn more here!


  • Identifying problems
  • Analyzing situations
  • Solving problems
  • Evaluating
  • Reflecting
  • Ethical responsibility

Social Awareness

The ability to take the perspective of and empathize with others, including those from diverse backgrounds and cultures. The ability to understand social and ethical norms for behavior and to recognize family, school, and community resources and supports. (CASEL) Learn more here!


  • Perspective-taking
  • Empathy
  • Appreciating diversity
  • Respect for others

Relationship Skills

The ability to establish and maintain healthy and rewarding relationships with diverse individuals and groups. The ability to communicate clearly, listen well, cooperate with others, resist inappropriate social pressure, negotiate conflict constructively, and seek and offer help when needed. (CASEL) Learn more here!


  • Communication
  • Social engagement
  • Relationship-building
  • Teamwork

Student Showcase - Digital Photography

Wellness Wednesday - Outer & Inner Space

by Lisa Landon, School Counselor


Does your outer space match your inner space? Strange question, right? Think about it. Pause to take a look around you as you read this. We've all had to adapt so quickly to working at home. Some of us had amazing works spaces or home offices. The rest of us had to construct something from what existed in our home environments or invest in new purchases to create something. Whatever your situation, does your outer space match your inner space?


When we first started working from home, I was improvising my work space. I might sit on the sofa/couch one day, at my small desk another, and in the kitchen the next. After a couple of months, I realized that my nomadic ways were leaving me feeling unsettled. Each night I had to "pack up" my supplies so my dog wouldn't decide to snack on them. Each morning I had to consult with my husband (who teaches at another high school in the county) to figure out who was working from where that day. What felt like an adventure soon took a different tone -- one that made me sigh a lot. (I sigh when I am troubled.)


This summer I did something that has made a world of difference. I made a place for myself to work from home...a more permanent space. I carved out a corner of an upstairs bedroom where I have a makeshift desk, an office chair (Thanks, Amazon!), and other supplies I need to do my job. No more teetering laptops for me! It has made working from home feel so much better. I learned that having a dedicated space in which to accomplish the important tasks of working (learning, in your case) is a lot having the right shoes. They either fit and feel comfy or they pinch and distract.


Do you have a workspace set up for yourself? A "place" in your house where you can "go to school" each day? Does your outer space suit your inner space? In other words, the place where you are working and learning each day should (ideally) fit with what you need to feel comfortable, focused and inspired. Look at Ms. Gaimair's space in the photo accompanying this. She has created a work space that uses what she has in her home, and I think anyone who knows Ms. G would say her outer space definitely matches her inner space. I'm inspired to make art just looking at her space!


Where we are working and learning impacts our mindset, mood and ability to focus. Take some time this week to observe where you are working and learning each day. Ask yourself a few questions:


  1. Do I have a clear space for school and learning?
  2. If not, where can I create one using what I have in my home?
  3. If so, does my outer space match the needs of my inner space?
  4. What is my ideal space for working and learning?


We would love to see where you are working and learning! Email me a photo of your workspace, and let me know if it is okay to share it in a future edition of The Teal Times (T3).

Cox Mill HS - Student Support Services (S3)

Students experiencing or concerned about a mental health crisis should immediately contact the closest adult or call emergency services.