Conflict and Crisis

Conflict/Crisis by Joe M., Trusten M., Austin R., Adrian P.

What we're doing

This smore is conflict crisis management. Are main question is "When does conflict become a crisis?" We are also focusing on the steps to take in managing conflict/crisis. For this smore we are focusing on family conflict. Family conflict ranges from divorce to adoption, but it would take a lot to cover all of it. So the specific ones we are covering are going to be adoption and losing a loved one. There are two types of conflict, destructive and constructive. Destructive tries to bring one another down. The conflict were dealing with, constructive, is when people are trying to solve a problem which will result in the better of them both.

When does conflict become a crisis?

Conflict and crisis are very general statements. It is an opinion on the difference between them. The definition of conflict for this type of conflict would be a "psychological struggle which can be unconscious which results from exclusive desires tendency or impulses." and the definition for crisis is for this project is "an emotionally stressful time or a traumatizing event in one's life." So a crisis is just a big conflict and according to the definition, a conflict becomes a crisis when it becomes emotionally stressful. For example, ones family member could be sick which would just be a conflict. However if the person passes away or they know they have a limited number of days left, then it would become emotionally stressful and a crisis. Keep in mind that this is different for everyone because there are different type of conflict and when something becomes emotionally stressful is an opinion.

Our main conflicts we are focusing on

Conflict & Crisis Management

Dealing with Family Death

Remember, when dealing with family conflict, the closer one is, the more it will hurt. However, everyone will have to go through it one way or another. The typical stages of losing a loved one are in chronological order, disbelief, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Go to the funeral or memorial service. This will help one pay their respects and accept it sooner. However, when helping someone grieve with losing a loved one, be patient. Everyone is different so people will take different amounts of time to accept the death. Some other helpful tips are to surround oneself with loved ones who will support them and to keep a routine which gives the person something to do daily and helps them feel normal. I can relate to this because I had lost my grandfather when I was eight. However, I didn't understand as much as I do now. I went through all the five stages from disbelief to acceptance. I did not want to go to the funeral because I only thought it would make me feel worse. My parents had supported me throughout it all and I finally accepted m that my grandfather was gone.

Dealing with Adoption issues

Most kids that are put up for adoption and adopted all have one question running through their mind which is why did their parents put them up for adoption? Usually adopted kids put "walls" around themselves to keep anyone from getting too close. They might hide behind perfectionism and achievement of all sort. To deal with being adopted you have to try to not think about how you were adopted and make new memories with your new family like they were your original family. Also the parent has to find out the grief that is bothering them and explore that. Once that is done, they can now learn life lessons from the adoption like appreciation and acceptance. The adopted child might feel different than their friends or classmates. It is important that they don't and just try to live normally with their parents like Matt did in the book All the Broken Pieces. Otherwise, all these reasons might be why adopted children are one-third of the psychotherapy patients, yet two percent of the population. Also, adopted children are more likely to have runaway behavior and referrals.

Citations/Craeaza

Burg, Ann E. All the Broken Pieces: A Novel in Verse. New York: Scholastic, 2009. Print.

"How to Deal with the Death of a Close Relative." Suite101.com. N.p., n.d. Web. 27 May 2013.

The Free Dictionary. N.p., 2013. Web. 24 May 2013.

"Adoption Issues." Adoption Issues. Grief Speaks, n.d. Web. 27 May 2013.

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