Types of Parts: Managers

The Healing Room at Heartspace

Module Seven - 60 Minutes

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What Managers Do

Read about Manager Parts in Parts Work, pages 37 & 38. This gives you a very general idea about Managers. As you learned in Module 5, Managers can also be Protectors. As Protectors, Managers avoid, control, and try to prevent the activation of Exiles. They do this even in the course of your therapy and must be worked with.


Perhaps you have already identified some of your own Managers in Module 5. Here you can revisit those and perhaps identify more. Use an index card and make a list of all the different managers you have. Some of these are adaptive and some more potective. Mark the more protective ones with an asterisk.

Fears of Protectors

Managers that are protectors often become concerned in course of therapy about approaching the Exiles, even though our intentions are to heal them. To understand more about this, read 182-188 in Self-Therapy,; Addressing the Protectors Fears.


As you read and become aware of your own Managers, notice which of these fears resonate with you.

Back to Your List

Return to your list of managers and choose one of the more protective managers that you marked with an asterisk. Make an index card for this part, draw a picture, or write a statement, declaration, thesis from the perspective of this part. The latter would start out something like:


"I am _________, one of __________'s managers.

It is my job to ________.

I fear _______.

I protect _________ exile by _____________."

And so on...


Make it as thorough as you can.

Resources

Think about what resources would make things easier for this Manager if you had more of them. Find these resources in any of the resource materials. Imagine taking them in. Write these down.

Appreciation and Connection

Think of how this manager has protected you so far in your life. Appreciate its positive intention even if there have been negative consequences of its behavior. See if you can align with its intentions and tell it so. Let it know that you want to work together to find a better way to accomplish its goals while at the same time allowing you to reach the Exile for healing.

Other Things to Do

Draw a picture, select a marble or other object to represent the manager you are working with. Bring the object with you through the day and week to repeatedly connect and check in with it. Write a letter to this manager.

Chakras

Look through any of the books on Chakras and notice if this manager is connected with any of the chakras, based on where it is in your body or it's particular function or behavior. Use the chakra stones and Reiki healing approaches to support and heal this manager.

EFT

Do the module on EFT with this manager as the focus.

Take Your Time/Repeat

All modules are intended to be done unhurried & at your own pace. The designated timeframes are really just a guess. If you don't finish the module you are doing in the allotted timeframe, just note where you left off and schedule another time where you can finish the module. It is also helpful to repeat modules and alter them for your own individual purposes.


Providing feedback in the private group blog at www.healingroom.space will help us make modifications in estimated time, and improve the overall experience of using The Healing Room.

Read On

Feel free to read more in any of the books referenced in your modules. Specific excerpts have been identified for quick reference and easy digestion within modules, but you are welcome to spend more time in these books to expand your knowledge and increase your understanding. Schedule additional time in The Healing Room to use the resources in whatever way makes sense to you.

Journal About What You Discover

There is scratch paper (recycled junk faxes on one side, blank on the other), writing pads, and sketch pads for you to use to make drawings and writing notes about your Healing Room experience. Take a moment at any time during your Modules, or at the end to do so.


You may also want to bring along your own private journal for this purpose.

Alternating Bilateral Stimulation

ABS helps with maintaining Self-Presence, the flow of information from part to Self, & integrating new perspectives that result from this exchange.


Remember, The Healing Room is set up with a stereo system that can provide audible Alternating Bilateral Stimulation (ABS) which is a component of EMDR therapy (Eye-Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing). The unique Alternating Bilateral Stimulation sample played continuously in The Healing Room is called Ocean Crossover and mimics ocean waves moving back and forth across the room at a gentle low volume in the background. It has a relaxing effect and supports the neural integration of new perspectives and healing of negatively charged memories, particularly when it is paired with specific tasks.


Having the ABS playing at a volume loud enough to hear it, but low enough that it seems to fade into the background while you learn these skills, is optimal.