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for TEENS ... resources with YOU in mind

The Teenage Years

The teen years can be very exciting , but they can also be quite difficult depending on what you have to cope with. Stress is a normal part of everyday life, but with all the changes teens go through, stress can build up.

Please take what you like from these resources and leave the rest. If something here is helpful, please use it.

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Attitude

Your attitude matters. I control my emotions; they don’t control me.


Apps are another way to be kind to your mind. Below are some apps that may help you.

BE ASSERTIVE

https://youtu.be/dReFz3G7QUE

Books

A book on the topic you are trying to cope with can help. Beliefs- what you think matters. Challenge your thoughts about the topic that stresses you.: Be positive! Books can be healing! Find a book you love that helps you drift away or learn new things.


One of my all time favorite books is Mans Search for Meaning

https://youtu.be/ttcEUenhfUU
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Breathe

Just breathe

https://youtu.be/Nmvk3zlyQ2w

Caring and compassion make a difference. Self care even more so.

Helping others helps you to focus on others, not on your own problems. Volunteer with other students with special needs. You will not only feel better , you will make a difference.

Care about yourself. Write a positive message to yourself on a mirror with an erasable marker. Write a positive note to yourself on a card and carry it around in your wallet.

Creative The Future You Want

You may think you can't but YOU CAN. You are in charge of your life. What path you take is up to you.

COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS

Pay attention to which ones you have and work and a more helpful way of thinking ...
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Decide to reach out

Ask for help . Reaching out is a strength not a weakness.Your School Counsellors are there to help.

Express your feelings .

Feelings are neither write or wrong. It’s what you do with them that matters. If you hurt yourself or someone else then that needs to be changed. So write down your feelings.Tell someone how you feel. Draw your feelings in an Art journal. Find some great ideas for Art Journaling on pinterest.

Exercise

Exercise is always helpful and makes you feel and think better. Start small ,but just do it! You can ! Find an app that helps you exercise.

Focus on your strengths

Watch this video:
https://youtu.be/36m1o-tM05g

Failing Does Not Mean You Are A Failure

watch this video:

https://youtu.be/Y6hz_s2XIAU

Gratitude

Being grateful makes us happier. Research says so . Write 2 things you are grateful for in a journal everyday.
https://youtu.be/oHv6vTKD6lg

HOPE

It is so important to maintain a hopeful perspective.

Invite others to help you ...

Kids Help Phone, another adult, find someone who can really help you.

Just be yourself.

YOU are good enough

Kindness is always a good thing .

Do a Random Acts of Kindness for someone else today.
https://youtu.be/nwAYpLVyeFU

Let go of past hurts

Do it for you. Holding on to resentments ends up hurting you the most. Practice saying this to yourself. I will let go and live my life to the fullest no matter what anyone says or does to me.

After any betrayal it is common for you to feel hurt and it is ok to feel those feelings. You want to protect yourself from hurting again. Be kind to yourself. Free yourself to trust and accept others as they are not as you wish them to be. Don't let anger define who you are.


Talk it out with someone or write it out in a journal. Keep a visual journal. That in itself can be a healing process. You can let it all out there.


Let it go ... one day at a time


https://youtu.be/FNE9N5lECb0

Listen to music

Find your favourite or create your own. Neuroscientists say this one reduces anxiety.
https://youtu.be/UfcAVejslrU

Motivation

https://youtu.be/lsSC2vx7zFQ

Mindfulness matters.

Focus on your breath. Here are some tips for teens.

Naming game ... grounding yourself

54321 . 54321 Coping Technique and I would add an extra 1 One thing you are grateful for. 543211.

Overcome Obstacles

watch this video
https://youtu.be/2MGMvEnoD6U

Play

Yes, it's ok to play. Paint ...art is therapeutic. ,There are no mistakes in art. Be free ...play Play an instrument . Play making new things or just play a sport or play outside, but whatever you do play away.
https://youtu.be/wE85kRe_dsw

Positive self talk

The way you speak to yourself matters. Make sure you are speaking to yourself the way you would speak to your best friend.
https://youtu.be/9SiGP4B-ffA

Quiet your mind

Be still! Visualize your safe, happy place

Relax

Practice mindfulness

Sleep well

Sleep matters so take care of yours. Some tips here.

Toxic Stress

Toxic stress is not good for you. Get rid of it. Train your brain to go to a safe place. Your safe place might be a beach, a room that you like to go to. Your space is unique. Find one that works for you.

Trust: that your negative feelings will not last forever. Develop positive connections with people that heal and help not hurt and harm.

Understand

that YOU truly matter. YOU have a purpose for being here. You can make a difference in the world. Look out world here you come. You have a choice in what happens to you and how you react to all that life throws your way.

Virtual Bubble wrap. have some fun.

Virtual bubble wrap enjoy click here.

Watch a funny show

to get your mind off all the serious stuff. There are lots of funny shows and movies. If that doesn't work hang around a friend you know makes you laugh.

Write a letter to your problem

Whatever is bothering you write a letter about it and actually give yourself advice. Treat it like you are writing how to solve the problem to your best friend.


Share the letter if you like ,but if you don't that is ok too!

eXtra special . THAT's YOU!

That’s the way you need to treat yourself. So start today.

YOU MATTER . Remember this always.

You really do. Write these affirmations on your mirror.




  • I will engage in my life


  • I will create the life I want


  • I am getting better every day in every way


  • My self-worth is not determined by others, but by myself


  • I matter


  • I am confident about solving life’s problems successfully


  • If I can conceive it and believe it, I can achieve it


  • I look forward to the future with hope and happiness

  • I will follow my dreams


  • I am not trying to fit in, because I was born to stand out


  • I am good enough


  • I will surround myself with people who treat me well