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Prevent Abusive Relationships Among Teens


What you think you know: When speaking about abusive relationships, many teens often think that it's non-existent. Others are not aware, and when they establish a relationship, chances are they could become involve in an abusive relationship. The best way to prevent teens from establishing abusive relationships is by informing them of this issue.

Warning Signs:

  • Preventing you from working or attending school
  • Destroying your property
  • Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons
  • Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
  • Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol
  • Checking your cell phone or email without permission
  • Constantly putting you down
  • Extreme jealousy or insecurity
  • Explosive temper
  • Isolating you from family or friends
  • Making false accusations
  • Mood swings
  • Physically hurting you in any way
  • Possessiveness
  • Telling you what to do

For example, some teens might be the victim, or the victim's friend and they might say some of the following:

  • I would never let someone hit me, I'd leave!
  • It's none of my business
  • It cannot be that bad
  • If I was a better person..
  • Why doesn't she just leave?
  • She would ask for help..
  • Abuse only happens to poor people
  • He is such a nice guy/girl, he/she would never hit anyone

Always remember to speak up and help yourself or someone else. Do not fall into statistics, with awareness we can prevent abusive relationships among teens.

Ways to help:

Sometimes it is difficult to help a victim, but not impossible. The victim might be in denial, and will not want help and that is okay. In this case, it is better to talk with them alone (if you have the chance) and tell them how concerned you've become. Chances are they're concerned too, but are still in denial. In addition, be supportive and listen, do not point fingers and try to blame the victim or the partner, for they will pull away. Instead, try to show them that abuse is not normal, and continue to listen. Try not to overwhelm them with any of your help, (telling them too much at once) they might be come angry and pull away. Be patient, kind, supportive and understanding, this will help them more than you know.

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Mariel Reyes