IMPtime 2018-19
Communication
Introduction - What is communication?
Communication can be verbal
- using oral language to convey a message,
or nonverbal
- including facial expressions, body language, text or written based language.
Sometimes a message’s original meaning gets lost in the translation between thought and the act of communicating it.
Learning how to communicate effectively helps one maintain healthy relationships, resolve conflicts peacefully, excel in school, and eventually get and keep jobs.
Sdcda.org. (2018). Girls Only! Toolkit - San Diego County District Attorney. [online] Available at: http://www.sdcda.org/office/girlsonlytoolkit/ [Accessed 19 Aug. 2018].
An important part of this process is the willingness to listen to what is being communicated.
Active listening is different than hearing, because listening requires effort to focus and understand. Listening is also different from agreeing with the message.
It is particularly difficult to listen when we disagree with the message, because we tend to put up defensive walls that block the message from being received.
When we listen, we pay attention not only to the words spoken, but also to the other person’s tone of voice, facial expressions, posture, and emotions.
TABLE DISCUSSION
- View the link and discuss as a table which of the points from your article you need to share out to your class.
- Share with the class why it is important to communicate well in these areas.
- Spoken or Verbal Communication: face-to-face, telephone, radio or television and other media.
- Non-Verbal Communication: body language, gestures, how we dress or act - even our scent.
- Written Communication: letters, e-mails, books, magazines, the Internet or via other media.
- Visualizations: graphs and charts, maps, logos and other visualizations can communicate messages.
Read more at: https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/what-is-communication.html
CLASS DISCUSSION
- Address a friend
- Address your teacher
- Ask for help
- Speak to someone who you dislike or are angry with
- Register a complaint
- Question versus a statement, ie. telling your teacher, "I need a pencil".
Discuss how you use non-verbal communication:
- How to email your teacher
- How to email an adult with whom you are not familiar
- How to prevent misunderstood texts
- Social Media posts - why is clear communication important?
- Blog posts - your own posts and responding to your peers' posts
How Miscommunication Happens (and How to Avoid It)
CLASS DISCUSSION
- Communication is a two-way process, in which we work to understand ideas together. How does feedback affect this process?
- Why is communication often more difficult with a large group than a single individual?
READ ALOUD AND DISCUSS
Ten Kid-Friendly Rules for Texting With Respect and Dignity
1. Choose Your Words Carefully
If you wouldn’t say something to a person’s face, don’t send it via text or the internet. Technology makes it too easy to say things that are impulsive or unkind. Also, the person reading your message can’t see your facial expressions or hear your tone of voice. Sarcasm and humor often get lost in translation online, so avoid their use. Type carefully as well; avoid using ALL CAPS since they make it look like you are angry or YELLING.
2. The Internet is Not a Weapon
Don’t gossip about other people while you are online. Your words can be misinterpreted, manipulated, and forwarded without your permission. Plus, it’s not fair to talk about people when they can’t defend themselves. Likewise, social media sites should never be used to strategically exclude peers who are “on the outs” of a peer group or to “de-friend” a person after a fight.
3. What You Post is Permanent
Once you share something online, you lose control of where it goes, who can forward it, who will see it, and how it can potentially be used. As much as you might believe right now that you can trust your boyfriend with intimate photos or your best friend with secrets, you should still refrain from sending either of them any personal information online. You can’t imagine it now, but someday, that information could be distorted and used against you.
4. Who is this Message For?
What happens in cyberspace stays in cyberspace—forever! Though you may intend to send your private message or photo to a single recipient, keep in mind that it can be cut, pasted, and forwarded to an infinite number of people. Never post a photo or message that you wouldn’t want “everyone” to be able to view.
While on the subject, be thoughtful about the photos and videos that you allow your peers to take of you. Sometimes, these images start off as fun but can be used in embarrassing ways later on. Always have all of your clothes on and don’t engage in any kind of “joking” behavior on film that can be taken out of context or used against you later on.
5. There are No “Do Overs.”
Once you put something out there online, it’s almost impossible to take it back. Therefore, always be kind and do not ever use email to say ugly, nasty, or mean things about anyone or to anyone. Stop and ask yourself, “What would Mom think if she read this?” Post accordingly.
6. Take it Slow
In this immediate world of instant messaging and constant contact, you may be tempted to say whatever comes to your mind in a given moment. Don’t give in to the temptation. Slow down and think before you post whatever thought, comeback, or reaction is on your mind--especially if you are feeling an intense emotion like anger or sadness. Wait until you have had a chance to think things through and cool your head before you post a message that can’t be taken back.
7. Unplug Every Once in a While.
It is important to be able to walk away from toxic friendships. A first line of defense in stopping cyberbullying is logging off from an account temporarily. You have the ability to instantly end a digital conversation and should plan to do so the minute you recognize that cruelty has begun. In cases where the harassment is repeated, block the aggressor altogether.
8. Don’t Talk to Strangers
Remember that message your parents gave you when you were little? It still applies today and is very important to remember when you are online. Predators lurk in cyberspace and have clever, hidden ways of soliciting personal information from young people. Never share private information online, including your full name, home address, personal photos, school name, or phone number.
The same is true for online “Followers.” Please know that there is a very, very, VERY big difference between real friends and online followers. Go for quality over quantity and be sure to invest the majority of your time and energy into your real life friendships rather than in anonymous cyber-followers.
9. Set Strong Passwords
Set strong passwords on all of your accounts to protect your identity and make sure that the only person who is speaking for you is YOU.
10. It’s (NOT!) Nice to Share
For most of your life, you’ve been told that it’s nice to share with others, but when it comes to your passwords, just (DON’T!) do it! Your accounts are your accounts. It is in your best interests not to let any friend—even a best friend—post or text from your account. Ever.
The exception to this rule is your parents. DO share your passwords with them. Seriously. Don’t think of it as a violating of your privacy. Know that this is the best way for your parents to keep you safe from physical, emotional, and even legal harm.