How To Deal With Conflicts
Tips and stories on how to deal with conflicts and crisis
- External conflict is a struggle that occurs between a character and outside forces, which could be another character or the environment.
SUMMING IT UP
External conflict can range from person to person or to as serious as person to nature (as in the book shark girl). Seen in the various cases of man to nature, external conflict can have you missing a limb. Below are some ways to deal and understand better the meaning of external conflict and crisis.
- It wasn't your fault so do not dwell
- Turning away from support isn't going to comfort you.
- Never single yourself out (in fact seek help)
- Try to use what happened as good
- Research or ask questions about your condition to better understand
When your dealing with a crisis, its alright to cry or be angry. Somtimes, though you need to realize what's going on in your heart.
Somtimes, you never realize what you are actually thinking might affect you. Saying "It couldv'e been different", won't help you move forward. Instead, you might try thinking on the positive side. Talk to people you know that will help care. Try praying or silently thinking to yourself. Your life is worth saving, not ending.
What to Say & What NOT to Say
When someone close to you becomes an amputee, or has a wound that cannot be undone, they feel lost, in a world that was theirs. They feel like everything they planned for in life was not worthwhile, and now they have to start over. Most amputees get sick of "I'm sorry this happened to you", or ,"I wish I could've helped in some way".
These words usually trigger sympathy, but sometimes it can be overkill. There is only one thing that he or she wants to hear; the truth. No matter what you say, it should seem sincere, to the point and straight from the heart.
Tips on How to Deal
7 TIPS ON HOW TO DEAL WIT INTERNAL/EXTERNAL CONFLICT
- By listening and understanding the following tips, you might be able to beat what ever mixed emotion you may have about your situation.
2.DONT BLAME OTHERS
3.DONT REFLECT ON WHAT COULDVE HAPPENED
4.ADMIT TO THE PROBLEM
5.DONT GIVE UP
7.NEVER EVER CHANGE TO FIT THE SITUATION
Examples From A Book
You may be familiar with the story a Bethany Hamilton. The book "Shark Girl" by Kelly Bingham, is a story similar. The main character Jane Arrrowood was THE artist of her hometown. She has won compititions, school contests, medals and so much more. One day, she was attacked by a shark, bitting off her right arm. When she woke up in the hospital, only one thing came to an awful realization... Can she ever draw again?
Jane is finally back to school. All she gets is glares,stares, and gossip. Not even a simple "hello"!
As she continues to find ways to live her life, simple things along the way help her along. Jane finnaly realizes that there IS a way to love without doubt and lonliness. The doubting voices in her head vanish, as she forgets the past, and focuses on the future.
Henry's accident was on May 25, 2000. He was riding his motorcycle down a highway when a car pulled out in front of him. His front tire struck the car, throwing him forward about 50 feet onto the ground. He broke every bone in his foot and his lower part of his leg. Doctors at said they could save his leg; however, he would not be able to return to the job. A few hours later, Henry decided to have his leg amputated.
To the additional weight he needs to carry on the job, Henry wears a knee strap attached to his socket. The knee strap is attached to a belt around his waist by parachute straps.
Since his shifts run for 24 hours, he sleeps at the fire station. Although he removes his leg to sleep, he compares the time it takes him to put on his leg to the time it takes the other guys to put on their socks.
As well as returning to work, Henry continues playing softball, riding his horse, surfing, and building and racing stock cars. He is also still riding motorcycles.
At the age of 16, on February 10th, 1982, just eight days after her birthday, Debi Hume was the victim of a hit and run accident involving a motorbike. Her leg ended up in the wheel on her bike at a 90 degree angle, hanging on by a thread. After nearly ten years Debi decided to have her leg amputated. Debi has never let having one leg hold her back. She gets frustrated and has her bad days from time to time but just gets on with it. Whether it's being determined or just plain stubborn, nothing stops her from getting on with life. She finds using crutches a pain, so she either uses her wheelchair or crawls if she doesn't have her leg on and she has never been a fan of footwear. Debi has travelled overseas (though she finds going through customs a pain), she has bungy-jumped, rock climbed, worked full time as a retail manager and finds swimming without her leg the most amazing feeling, as you are lighter in the water.