Trust-Based Relational Intervention in our Classrooms
THE ART OF SHARED POWER
Power struggles can be a difficult thing to overcome in the classroom setting. Allowing our students to have a sense of identity and choice can remove that struggle. In order for student success to occur we as adults have to balance structure and nurture in our relationships. Here are some other ideas to help you balance nurture and structure in the classroom:
VOICE: Be aware of your voice. The tone, volume, and cadence of your voice affects a student's ability to regulate his or her own emotions. As the adult, of you aren't regulated, how do you expect a child (even a teenage child) to calm his or her big feelings?
EYES: Be aware of your eyes when you ask for their eye contact. Your gentle eyes matter. If you aren't able to look at the student and see his or her preciousness despite their behavior in that moment, step away and take a moment to regulate your own emotions. Ask and never force a student to give you eye contact.
MATCH: Get on their level to connect. Match their posture and position.
For example, if the student is sitting on the ground, you sit on the ground the same way. If the student has his or her head down on the table, sit down and put your head on the table and calmly talk to the student before giving the choices.
VISUAL CUE: Holding up 2 fingers as a visual cue while explaining their choices. Keep it short and simple to understand. Remember the choices need to be two things you are willing to allow.
These strategies work across age groups. It may feel awkward or uncomfortable at first but felt safety is crucial for the success of our students. Pick one strategy to implement and see if you notice a change in responses.
Join Communities in Schools for a fun day of fishing followed by a band party and low country boil at Morningstar marina on April 29. Check the link for details about participating in the fishing tournament or just coming to enjoy the festivities.
Spicy Fish Taco Bowls
- 1 tablespoon chili powder
- 1 tablespoon cumin
- 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper
- 3-4 fish filet of your choice
- 1-2 cloves minced garlic
- 1 cup fresh sweet corn kernels (sliced off the cob is the best)
- 1 red onion, diced
- 1 red pepper, diced
- 1 can black beans
- cooked brown rice (I used about 2 cups)
- fresh cilantro, avocado, shredded cheese, sour cream, or pico de gallo for topping
- Mix the spices together in a small bowl and sprinkle evenly over both sides of the fish filets. (I like to season my fish a LOT, but just sprinkle on however much looks good to you.) Add salt and pepper to taste.
In a large nonstick skillet over medium high heat, heat a drizzle of olive oil. Add the garlic and saute for 1-2 minutes. Add the fish filets to the pan. Grill the fish on each side for several minutes, checking the middle for doneness (fish should be completely white and flake apart easily). Remove fish filets and set aside.
Add corn, red peppers, and onions to the pan with no additional oil. Heat over high heat for several minutes WITHOUT stirring to get a brown/black roasted look on the outside. Repeat for several minutes (stir, wait, stir, wait) until the peppers and onions are tender-crisp. Add the black beans and heat through.
Layer rice, corn/pepper mixture, and fish in a bowl - or mix everything together in the skillet. Top with any of the toppings listed above!