Parents Are Watching

Parenting Tweens & Teens Responsibly in a Digital World

Why You Should Worry

Compiled by Lynne O'Connor

Admit it. Only a nuclear attack would separate your children from their phones!

In most cases cellphones are necessary and harmless tools, but the reality is that you should have some control over a device that could put your children in danger.

As a parent, you need to know what your children are doing on their phones and who they're talking to.

It's well known that paedophiles groom some of their 'victims' these days, by connecting with them on social media websites and on their cellphones.

Young girls are also tricked into meeting men, who pretend to be boys online.

Below are some tools for parents, provided by RapeWise.

Cellphone Lingo

GF - Girlfriend

BF - Boyfriend

BFF - Best friend forever

BRB - Be right back

AFK - Back at keyboard

CD9 - Code 9 - parents are around

PIR - Parent in room

PRW - Parents are watching (also PAW)

POS - Parent over shoulder

DOS
- Dad over shoulder

MOS - Mom over shoulder

ILY - I love you

143 - I love you

182 - I hate you

ASL
- Age/sex/location

LMIRL - Let's meet in real life

RU/18
- Are you over 18

KPC
- Keeping parents clueless

KFY - Kiss for you (also K4Y)

Banana - Penis

RUH - Are you horny?

DUM - Do you masturbate?

8 - Oral sex

MEZRU
- I am easy, are you?

IWSN - I want sex now

TDTM - Talk dirty to me

GNOC - Get naked on camera

GYPO - Get your pants off

NIFOC - Nude in front of the computer

FB - F **** buddy

Take Responsibility

  • Do not supply technology at an inappropriate stage - e.g. Giving a grade 2 - 6 child a Blackberry
  • Ignorance is no excuse
  • You pay for the technology and you have the right to check your children's phones/computers/iPads
  • Make your children understand that it is a privilege and not their right to be connected

Don't Be A Techno Dinosaur!

  • Become tech-savvy
  • Know how to BBM, WhatsApp, MMS and SMS
  • Get onto Facebook, Twitter and MXit
  • Make sure that you're 'friends' with your children on these platforms

Rules For Your Home

  • All cellphones, iPads and Laptops are dropped off in a certain area before going to bed
  • The bedroom becomes a TECH-FREE ZONE
  • If children don't know their cellphone 'friends' in real life, they should remove them as friends or contacts on their phones or computers
  • Explain to your children the difference between snooping and parental control

Open Communication With Your Child Is Key!

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