Getting Through Conflict

Simple way and tips to overcome obtacles

An Introduction to Conflict

Through the realms of our world, moments of happiness embrace us while personal troubles create obstacles in our path. Conflict, an element with a negative aura in our lives, is always visible through disputes, disagreements, and tragedies that occur in our lives. However, these conflicts can be solved in numerous ways. Through the process of acquiring skills, we will help you learn and eventually develop these through this presentation.

LA Introduction

Bullying

All around the world, children and teens are being bullied. Some are even hurt enough to commit suicide. This is conflict between two people, but the person being bullied can have a low self-esteem, and be battening with themselves, which is self-conflict. Self-conflict can put stress, depression, and angst in their life. Bullying will cause this because the bully is hurting emotionally, and even physically.

How can you deal with bullying?

5% of teens and children are diagnosed with depression in the US.

Women are twice as likely to suffer from depression than men.

Dealing with Broken Families

Causes of broken Families:

1) Abuse

2) Fights over money

3) Loss of someone of when someone is diagnosed with a condition

4) Trust is not common in the family


How to deal with Broken Families:

Broken family relationships cannot always be mended however much you want it. There is always going to be that one problem not solved and our job is to give you tips on how to make things better.

For one, find out what is causing this problem...is it child, or parental abuse? Lawsuits over money or custody? Loss or family members with condition?

Once the base of the problem is found, it is much easier to live a calmer life. The best way to solve problems is to find ways to avoid it or solve the problems, and talk it out so where you are not affected anymore. For example, if you are coping with a loss of a close family member- a good way to relieve the stress is to talk to other family members about the person, revisit their favorite things, in a away do that you are not affected anymore.


According to statistics, around half of the children in the US will experience divorced cases making divorce the rising marital status. Because of broken families, teen mothers have increased, alcoholism and abuse has also increased with in the broken families as well as depression.

Teen Depression and Suicide

Teen depression is a negative effect on our lives. It is expected that about 20% of all people will experience teen depression before reaching adulthood. This isn’t just the common stereotypical teen indolence, but a surge of hormones and issues in many facets of the victim’s life. Even though it is common to have different moods, but due to the hormonal changes in a teen’s, it enlarges the harm mood swings can trigger.

When a teen is in a serious depression state, there are many symptoms that are clearly seen by other people if they even slightly observe the adolescent. If a teen displays the unhappiness and negative feelings for more than two weeks, it is a sign to begin to take caution. If the teen is feeling very tired and has a decrease of energy, along with loss of their appetite or an extreme case of overeating. The feeling of restlessness, emptiness, loneliness, excessive sleeping, waking up very early, and degrade in extracurricular activities show the chances of depression feverishly increasing. The facet of threatening to commit suicide, or even commit it, and self harming are all very high and eye-opening indications of depression, or in some cases bullying.

Suicide is when someone kills themselves. There are many symptoms of suicide and ways to help stop someone from committing. If an individual has severe mood changes, abruptly changing from a depressed state to a joyous one, something is wrong. Another sign is if the person always talks about death, makes dying wishes, doesn’t really care about anything anymore, losing interest in past interests, and takes blame upon themselves like, “It would’ve been fine if I weren’t here”. If you see anyone depicting these life-threatening symptoms, you can call a hotline at first to help stop the suicide. Then, you can take them to a doctor or therapist.


How do Depressed Teens Feel?

Teens feel different apart from everybody else and hopeless. They begin to not have fun in events which they previously enjoyed and they abruptly stop liking to talk with friends. They feel helpless and unable to change their lifestyle and refuse any aid. They frequently make irritable and annoyed gestures and are impatient. Side effects such as body pains, headaches and thoughts about suicide occur.

Gestures made by Depressed Teens

Depressed teens start using drugs or smoking and start to skip classes. They call themselves ugly or inadequate and underestimate themselves. They start to talk about or attempt suicide. They stay away from good friends and like to stay away from a social life. They feel peer pressure and do not accept themselves normally. They belittle themselves and put themselves down to feel low and unworthy.

Adjusting to the Loss of a Friend or Family Member

Losing a friend or family member is always a hard time. Its traumatic and people don't exactly know how to respond to it because there's no "right way." It's a very difficult and strange type of adjustment. You feel numb and want something to distract you. You long for that person or the way it was before the tragic event. You become quiet and start distancing from your other friends and society. You start questioning your faith and the reason for living if life can be taken away so easily.


Though Cookie didn't really loose a family member. Her sister was away from the family long-term. It was like her sister was stuck in another world and weren't connected emotionally anymore. It was almost as they were strangers. She was frustrated, not knowing how to feel and her parent's fighting didn't help at all.


Like I said earlier, there's no right way to respond. But from personal experience, I had to let some things go. It was one of the most challenging times of my life. It hit me at a time when I least expected. But with friends, they helped me look at the good things in life that I still had. It taught me to treasure the good times and learn from the bad. If this is happening to you, I would advise you to talk to someone. Having a friend know will give you someone to lean on. Talking to your family will help you know that you aren't the only one mourning. Get help if you need it. Just don't bottle it all up. And lastly, let things go. It's not the end of the world, though it may seem like it because whatever you are going through will prepare you for a greater and better future.

Dealing With Un-acceptance

Nobody is perfect, and everybody has to accept that fact. When something major happens in someones life, they always act differently. As a result, they are also treated differently when they shouldn't be. When others figure out that something emotional and dramatic has happened, they basically "un-accept" them. When people are, so called un-accepted, they break down into depression thinking negative thoughts about them. But how do you avoid this outcome? When someone says negative thoughts about you and your "condition", try to ignore it and act like nothing has happened. Bullies will stop bullying you after they realizing that they aren't hurting you, so its better to act like usual and communicate with your friends normal. In other words, don't act vulnerable and STAY STRONG!