April 26, 2019
YOU ARE INVITED ~ Tomorrow, April 27th
In a celebration of all that God blessed us with this season!
When: Saturday, April 27, 2019
Where: The gym at Grace Lutheran Church and Christian School, 643 W 13th Ave, Escondido, CA 92025
Time: Show starts at 7:15 pm, ends at 8:30 pm
Stay after for a bit and enjoy some sweet treats and a slide show put together by our photographer, high school freshman, Emily Coffman!
We have some T-shirts for sale as well for $10 each
Questions- Amy 619-957-5505
"As For God, His WAY is perfect; The Word of the Lord is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him." 2 Samuel 22:3
DINO-MITE SCHOLASTIC BOOK FAIR
Monday, April 29th through Friday, May 3rd in the library.
Mon-Wed 7:30am - 4:30pm
Tu -Thur 7:30am - 5:30pm
Fri 7:30am - 2pm
Online ordering begins NOW! Simply click HERE to get started.
Summer Camp hard copies are also available in the daycare room and school office.
1st & 2nd Grade Artists!
"Mr. Petersen" by Harper, 1st Grade, Mrs. Zab
"Mr. Petersen" by Grady, 2nd Grade, Mrs. LaGrua
"Mr. Petersen" by Lexi, 1st Grade, Mrs. Mora
Last Chance for mixed bag sale!
There is still time!!! Help the 7th Grade Class earn money for their 8th grade Washington DC trip! AND receive great products in return.
Go to www.mixedbagdesigns.com/grace-christian-church-and-schools to browse the Mixed Bags website and order online. Use the FUNDRAISER ID: 42364. Be sure to include the name of the student you are ordering under. Products will be shipped directly to you. It is easy and quick so don’t delay. And, know that the 7th grade students will be so thankful to you as they earn 40% of all online orders.
On behalf of the 7th grade class and to those who have already supported the 7th grade class, THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!!
Questions? Contact Kristi Grayson at 760-445-7049 or email kristigrayson@gmail.com
Five Destructive Parenting Habits We Must Replace (from Tim Elmore)
Now that my kids are grown adults, I feel more comfortable teaching both parents and faculty the art of leading young people into healthy maturity. Like many parents, my experience raising my first child enabled me to relax a bit on my second child. We tend to obsess at the tiniest quirk in our first baby, and by child number three, we’re not as stressed. In fact, I just read this sequence and chuckled at its familiarity:
- First child eats dirt. Parent calls the doctor immediately.
- Second child eats dirt. Parent cleans out his mouth.
- Third child eats dirt. Parents wonder if they really need to feed him lunch.
After careful reflection and gathering data, I now offer some recommendations on some common parental or faculty behaviors we must replace. I learned these over the years and these shifts have made all the difference in the world as I lead students.
1. Motivation: We must replace FEAR with WISDOM.
Our generation of parents are riddled with fear. We’re scared our kids won’t make the honor roll; they’ll get pregnant; they’ll get abducted, you name it. Even though research shows that “stranger abduction” only represents one-hundredth of one percent of all missing children, we fret like it happens in our town every day. School shootings scare us into keeping our kids close and in view at all times. Imagine the message this sends to our young: The world is evil! Don’t take any risks. Never trust anyone. It’s enough to produce the most anxious population of American teens to date. So here’s my question: what if we replaced motivating kids with feelings of fear with encouraging them by using words of wisdom. Simply offering logical wisdom for each decision completely reframes their attitude and stifles their inner fear. Let’s be rational, not emotional.
Fear-based Parent: You can’t walk to the mall! The traffic is horrible; you might get hit by a car and killed!
Wisdom-based Parent: You can walk to the mall if you’re with Ben or Collin. Be sure to look both ways before crossing the street. Text me when you get there.
2. Evaluation: We must replace a focus on GRADES with a focus on GROWTH.
I changed the way I spoke to my kids about their report cards when my daughter turned 12. Prior to that time, I was like most parents. If she made three A’s, two B’s and a D . . . I focused on the D. I talked to her about her weaknesses. It was not fun. Once I began gazing at her high grades and talking about what she liked about those classes, we both had a better attitude with which to conquer the D. Too often, we’re misguided and create stress in our children. We measure the wrong things. Our focus should be on strengths, not struggles: where are they growing and thriving? This is where they’ll likely spend time in their careers. Let’s obsess over growth, not grades.
Grade-obsessed Parent: Why didn’t you make all A’s? What’s this C doing on your report card? You’re not going to get that scholarship!
Growth-obsessed Parent: Let’s explore the subjects where you were strong. Wow—look how you’ve grown! I love how you’ve improved in science.
3. Schedules: We must replace CLUTTER with SIMPLICITY.
According to Dr. Robert Leahy, the average teen today has the same level of anxiety as a psychiatric patient did in the early 1950s. Stress levels have continued to climb for more than seventy years. This is absurd. Part of our problem is the complications we face daily. Noise. Screens. Busyness. Information. Pings. I believe humans are not hardwired to consume the volume of data we do each day. We need margins for our mental and emotional health. What if you became more intentional about clearing the calendar and creating space for unsupervised play or relaxation? What if you made your students choose one or two activities and not do them all? Research tells us that when our days have margins we actually develop empathy and creativity.
Cluttered-life Parent: Quick, suit up or we’ll be late for your soccer practice, piano lesson and karate match. Hurry, we don’t have time to mess around.
Simplified-life Parent: Let’s plan to participate in just one extra-curricular activity this fall. It will leave time for family, house chores and unscheduled fun.
4. Identity: We must replace UNCONTROLLABLES with CONTROLLABLES.
Stanford psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck taught me this. In her book, Mindset, she suggests we naturally tend to have a “fixed mindset.” We assume if we make a bad grade in math, we’re just not good at math. It’s a fixed fact. Or, we just aren’t good readers or good communicators. She says we must cultivate a “growth mindset” in our students. We must treat our brains like a muscle that can grow. Then, parents and instructors must focus on encouraging variables that are in their control, not out of their control. Instead of flattering them for their beauty, we affirm their integrity, which is much more in their control. When we encourage controllable qualities, we empower our young to grow and encourage good priorities. What gets rewarded gets repeated.
Fixed-mindset Parent: You’re just not good at math; you just aren’t a natural student. Your sister is the smart one in the family.
Growth-mindset Parent: You may not be good at math . . . yet, but one day you will be. And I do appreciate your honesty and I love the empathy you show your friends.
5. Feedback: We must replace emphasizing BEHAVIOR with emphasizing BELIEF.
I recently met with a focus group of parents. While they were all very engaged in their role as moms and dads, one reality surfaced that surprised me. It was the level of anger they expressed toward their kids—short tempers, bursts of emotion, sometimes loud yelling. This tends to equate to punishing our children when they misbehave instead of disciplining them. We look backward and retaliate instead of looking forward and incentivizing better behavior. When offering feedback, my kids respond far better when I speak from “belief” in them. This means I convey the thought: “I know you’re better than what you just did.” When I correct students because I’m convinced they’re capable of more, I call out the best in them, rather than the worst. Too many kids are fragile and need us to get this one right.
Behavior-based Parent: I can’t believe you did that. What is wrong with you? You never get that task right!
Belief-based Parent: I’m giving you this feedback because I know you’re capable of exceeding my expectations. I’ve seen what you can do.
Here’s to replacing our human tendencies with visionary leadership.
Coming to Grace this Summer! VBS R O A R!
Interested in earning Family Service hours? We can use your help volunteering or donations towards Vacation Bible School this summer. Please contact Victoria Swanson at vswanson@gracelcms.net or Laura DuPont at laura.preston@yahoo.com
July 8 - 12, 2019. Stay on the lookout for more information to come!
What About The Annual Grace Women’s Ministry Tea?
Hello, all faithful participants of our Annual Friendship Tea!
We are excited to share that we are busy working on Grace’s 100th Anniversary Celebration, being held May 19th. To that end, we will not be hosting the Tea this year so we may serve our Congregation and the Anniversary Team by putting all our energies toward this very special time in Grace Lutheran Escondido Church’s history. Please help the Anniversary Team by RSVP’ing for the event, pray, and offer any help you can. If you have a desire to help with centerpieces by shopping, assembling, or supplying items please contact Women’s Ministry at hoyle7@earthlink.net.
Anniversary RSVP to https://tinyurl.com/Grace100th or visit our
website or 760-745-083 as soon as you can, thank you!
It’s Tea & Talk Time at the Grand Tea Room
Please join Jess Reimnitz of Thrivent Financial on Saturday, May 4th at 4:00 p.m. at the Grand Tea Room for a two-hour traditional afternoon tea. Guest speaker, Christine Vogelsang, will talk about the expectations we all face in our careers, our families, and our relationship with God. She will share her insights into the no-guilt joy we can all expect and look forward to when we are connected to the saving grace of our Lord Jesus.
Books (with a personal signing) will be available for purchase for $10.
Saturday, May 4th, 4:00 p.m. Cost: $29.00 per person
RSVP: (858) 345-0757 or jess.reimnitz@thrivent.com
The Grand Tea Room 145 West Grand Avenue Escondido, (760) 233-9500
Grace Christian School
Email: vlippman@gracelcms.net
Website: http://www.graceschoolescondido.org/
Location: 643 West 13th Avenue, Escondido, CA, USA
Phone: (760) 747-3029
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GraceEscondido/