RVES School Counselor Corner
What Happened This Month At Riverview Elementary School
Everything about this school year is different, BUT we believe that it's those differences that often times bring us closer together and make us stronger.
Riverview Elementary is not just a school - it's a community and a family. We strive for a feeling a connection between home and school. One of our goals for this school year, was to have our staff members be visible. As we move to Distance Learning soon, this becomes incredibly important.
In an effort to have Riverview staff members be more visible, we invited them to be guest readers for our CARES Lessons. Each week, our lesson focuses on one of the CARES themes (Cooperation, Assertion, Responsibility, Empathy, Self-Control). There is a read aloud and a short activity that goes along with the CARES theme of the week. In the end, our goal is to promote a culture of Kindness at Riverview.
Our CARES themes each have a phrase to remind students what they mean.
- Cooperation - "When we work together, anything is possible."
- Assertion - "All it takes is one. Be an upstander."
- Responsibility - "The person in control of you, is YOU!"
- Empathy - "Stand in someone else's shoes. See through their eyes and feel through their heart."
- Self-Control - "Stop. Think. Act."
Ms. Lindell-Woody (our amazingly talented music teacher) and several of our Riverview fourth and fifth grade students surprised us with a musical performance of our CARES themes and phrases. See below for a video of one of the performances and the lyrics to the song "RVES CARES for YOU!"
Navigating the Holidays
- Make a ranked list of what have been essential components of holidays, past and present, for your family.
- Plan out the who, what, where, and how of your traditions. Consult with everyone involved to have a shared understanding of how the holidays may look this year, the differences to expect, and how all can safely celebrate.
- Problem-solve together and get creative on how you might retain your most important family traditions - a grandparent could join you for a lesson over Zoom on how to make that favorite dish for the holiday meal, or that elusive sibling might be willing to take a virtual seat at the table this year!
- Find a method that works for you! It goes without saying that we are all unique in what coping strategies work for us, so that means we all have different ways of practicing and experiencing gratitude. Consider the following examples: journaling, taking a mental inventory to consider the people and experiences for whom you are grateful, a gratitude walk (using our five senses to appreciate our environment and our body), writing a letter or note of gratitude, verbally recognizing someone's role in your life, and meditation. This list isn't exhaustive, and the article link below can offer more tips, provide examples, and describe the benefits of gratitude.
- Use gratitude to connect! Expressing gratitude with those around us naturally improves our relationships. Making this a regular practice creates a felt sense of care that is essential to family and marital functioning.
- Think of gratitude as a skill. Don't give in to the temptation to give up on gratitude after a one-off experience; allow yourself to work through the discomfort of both expressing and receiving gratitude. It may be uncomfortable, but it doesn't mean that it isn't appreciated.
- Limit cognitive distortions. Our thoughts are powerful, but sometimes these thoughts might be irrational or unhealthy. Examples and counter-examples of such thoughts may include: personalization (seeing oneself as at fault rather than interpreting failure as a learning experience, such as "I'm so careless for ruining this holiday dish!" vs. "I learned how to be a better cook despite my recipe not turning out the way I wanted."), pervasiveness (assuming negative patterns of events, such as, "Other events this year have been disappointing, so Thanksgiving will be more of the same." vs. "This is an opportunity for me to apply what I've learned in the pandemic to have a meaningful Thanksgiving."), and permanance (assuming negative traits about ourselves, such as, "I don't have ideas for the holidays; I'm just not creative." vs. "I acknowledge I am under a lot of stress, so I'll turn to others for support on creative ideas.").
- Take a different perspective. Consider the example of our overall topic, navigating the holidays. We may think in a pessimistic way, "It won't be like last year, so it just won't be the same." To practice learned optimism, we might consider what can be learned about the situation and ourselves, how we might grow, and what perspective this could give us. Example: "This year will be different, but it will be an opportunity to get in touch with what is important to me and practice creative ways to be close to the people I care about."
- Take a look at the link below. It contains further reading, exercises, and videos to better understand learned optimism and its benefits.