Past Battering
Beat the relationship before it beats you...
What is past battering?
The abuser has a history of past battering and abusing their partners, and although they might admit to it they blame their previous partners for it. If you are in a relationship with an abuser for too long you may be a victim.
Blaming their partners.
The abuser may have a history of harming their partners, although they do admit to it they blame their past partners by saying they provoked them.
"It wasn't my fault! She made me upset."
Controlling Behavior
Although the partner may say they are just being loving and caring, they are showing signs of control. This may lead to the partner being an abuser, if the abuser shows signs of control they may be showing past battering.
"Don't wear that, wear this. Let me keep the money. Where were you? I need to know because I love you."
Quick Involvement
The partner may say things to flatter you, and may try to take things to the next level in a short amount of time. This is a red flag and is a sign of past battering. The abuser will say things such as he needs you to make you feel bad if you leave him. Often they are trying to hook in you into the relationship fast.
“I love and need you. You’re the only one who understands. Please don’ t leave me you are my world."
You should never be a victim...
Get out now!
Once you realize that you are in a abusive relationship, tell someone! Let someone you trust that you are being abused physically and mentally. Once somebody knows that you are a victim, leave your abuser. Although they may tell you that they love you, realize that red flags and abuse come in many different forms.