School Counselor's Corner
Parent Newsletter, December 2015
Classroom Guidance
In October during the Week of Respect, school-wide we read One by Kathryn Otoshi. From the story, we learned how it only takes ONE person to take a stand against bullying. Every student in the school made a shoe and pledged how they can take a stand against bullying.
In November, the students learned about what it means to be thankful. We discussed as a class what we are thankful for at home and at school. Each class made a Thanksgiving turkey, in which students were given a feather to write what they were most thankful for at school.
In December, the lesson will be focused on Responsibility.
Small Group Counseling Form
Small group counseling will take place during your child's recess/lunch once a week. Groups will run for 6 to 8 weeks.
More information will be provided on the form sent home with your child. Please check your child's backpack. Forms are due Monday, January 11, 2016.
When to Contact the School Counselor
Parents may want to contact the School Counselor if:
- Your child doesn't want to go to school in the morning.
- Your child keeps telling you he/she doesn't have any friends.
- Your family situation is changing (divorce, separation, domestic violence, etc.)
- Your child seems frustrated in school and nothing seems to be helping.
- There has been a recent death or illness in the family and you would like information on how to talk to your child about it.
Students may want to contact the School Counselor if:
- He/she is having trouble with a friend.
- He/she is being picked on and isn't sure how to handle it.
- He/she wants someone to talk to who will listen.
- He/she is having trouble with schoolwork and doesn't know how to get help.
- He/she wants to learn about leadership, cultural diversity and community service.
Individual Counseling
What is Individual Counseling?
Individual counseling consists of a safe, positive, and confidential setting used to address issues that 'get in the way' of' school achievement. Topics are based on the needs of the student and may include:
- understanding feelings
- changing families/divorce
- grief
- stress
- social skills
- academics
- bullying
- problem-solving
- decision-making
All students can receive these services through parent, staff, or self referrals.
How Can Students Self-Refer for Counseling?
Students can self-refer in many ways.
- We will always be visible for them to seek us out during lunch.
- They can let their homeroom teacher know they would like to speak to one of us.
- They can leave us a note inside our office.
Parents can reach us by phone or email to discuss any concerns they have about their child.
Managing Holiday Stress
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A 2008 holiday stress poll by the APA showed that more than eight out of 10 Americans anticipate stress during the holiday season. Money, in particular, can be a cause of stress, as parents feel demands to purchase gifts, decorations and other items tied to holiday celebrations. In the 2008 holiday stress poll, households with children were more likely to report anticipating stress during the holidays than those without, and one-third expected stress due to pressure to buy gifts or because of too many things to do. Additionally, APA’s 2011 Stress in America survey found that 75 percent of Americans report money as a significant source of stress.
Heightened stress during the holidays can lead to unhealthy stress management behaviors, such as overeating and drinking to excess. People tend to reduce their stress in ways they have learned over the course of time because they turn to what they know. You may take comfort in unhealthy stress management techniques just because they’re familiar, even though they’re not good for your health. But, there are other behaviors you can learn to further relieve stress and its effects that may be both healthier for you and longer lasting.
APA offers these tips to help parents deal with holiday stress
Set expectations – Talk to your kids about expectations for gifts and holiday activities. Be open with them if money is an issue. Depending on a child's age, parents can use this as an opportunity to teach their kids about the value of money and responsible spending. And be realistic. Take small concrete steps to deal with holiday tasks instead of overwhelming yourself with goals that are too far reaching for a busy time.
Keep things in perspective – Try to consider stressful situations in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing events out of proportion and teach your kids how to keep things in perspective, including what type and the number of gifts they receive.
Make connections – Good relationships with family and friends are important. So, view the holidays as a time to reconnect with people. Additionally, accepting help and support from those who care about you can help alleviate stress. Even volunteering at a local charity with your kids is a good way to connect with others, assist someone in need and teach your kids about the value of helping others.
Take care of yourself – Pay attention to your own needs and feelings during the holiday season. Engage in activities that you and your family enjoy and find relaxing. Taking care of yourself helps keep your mind and body healthy and primed to deal with stressful situations. Consider cutting back television viewing for kids and instead, get the family out together for a winter walk. It promotes activity and takes kids away from sedentary time and possible influence from advertisements.
How a psychologist can help
If you continue to feel stress around the holidays, consult with a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional. He or she can help you identify problem areas and then develop an action plan for changing them.
Psychologists are uniquely trained to understand the connection between the mind and body. They can offer strategies as to how to adjust your goals so that they are attainable, as well as help you change unhealthy behaviors and address emotional issues.
Practicing psychologists use a variety of evidence-based treatments – most commonly psychotherapy – to help people improve their lives. Psychologists, who have doctoral degrees, receive one of the highest levels of education of any health care professional. On average, they spend seven years in education and training following their undergraduate degrees; moreover, psychologists are required to take continuing education to maintain their professional standing
You can find psychologists near you by visiting APA's Psychologist Locator.
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