Seminar Benchmark
By: Samantha Johannsen
Social Style.
A social style differs on a spectrum. The spectrum ranges between Extrovert and Introvert. A extrovert loves being stimulated by action and noise while an introvert likes to be in solitude and work alone. The reason it is a spectrum is a person can have the opposite tendencies. As Carl Young said (According to Susan Cain) “There is no such thing as pure introvert or extrovert.” Carl is the man that first popularized the concept of the spectrum. “If there was such a man he should be in an insane asylum.” (Carl Young) The fact that he says that should prove that there is a spectrum.
To understand the use of these terms a person can take quizzes to measure their place on the spectrum. From there they can react to different situations. They may also reflect on what ends or place a friend, co-worker, etc. could be and maybe then handle them differently.
How to react and treat extroverts.
The concept from others
Qualities of an introvert and extrovert
Positive Psychology
Positive psychology is a study of what and how a person can be happier by changing different thought processes and environments a person is in. Studies show that a person can change their outlook on things by simply looking at the good things that happen and strengths they have. According to Martin Seligman: A person can immerse themselves into the things they are good at and excel at them. Therefor creating “The Good Life”. The good life is where time stops when you are in the zone. By doing what they are good at a person finds joy in it. A person can reflect on that and keep in mind that they were successful.
When I think about Positive psychology I think I am on the path to happiness. I don’t focus on the things I’m bad at and I do the things I am good at. I do think about how I don’t like who I am or what I look like or even my relationships with people. I think I could improve my use of what I’m good at.
Grit
Grit is sticking in for the long run. Not just the mile but for the marathon of life or goal. Our lab focuses on two traits that predict achievement: grit and self-control. According to Angela Lee Duckworth grit is the tendency to sustain interest in and effort toward very long-term goals. (https://sites.sas.upenn.edu/duckworth)
When I was taking quizzes for analyzing the amount of grit. I scored a 4.63. I’m in the 90-99th percentile of others that have taken the quiz. This surprised me because I don’t think I have much grit because of how much procrastinating I do. I think I could get my work done before the day of if possible. Start the work the day I get it and keep doing it till its done. Then move to other things. A quiz can not be the only thing that measures things. I believe that actions measure as well. A person can always differ on what mood they are in to determine the amount of grit they possess.
Emotional Intelligence
To many emotional intelligence is the ability to be aware of your actions and emotions as well those of others. But they might not know that it is more than that. EQ is split into 5 areas. Empathy, Social Skills, Self Regulation, Self Awareness, and Motivation each has its own purpose. Self Regulation and self awareness is about managing one’s own actions and know how to handle them correctly. Motivation is simply having motivation to do things and do them right. Empathy is putting yourself in another person’s shoes and feeling an emotion of theirs and understanding them. Social skills is know how to act in certain social situations and being able to balance and maintain relationships Emotional Intelligence is the ability to recognize and manage emotions in ourselves and in others. It is being aware of our own emotions, responding to them appropriately, and then doing the same with the emotions of other people (2007, MarkED)
When I look at my EQ I think about my ability to really feel another person's emotions. I also Know that I have very strong emotions and know how to handle/identify them. I know for a fact that I have problems with motivation. I struggle with wanting to do a task over and over again. When I know I have to do them. I feel very strongly that I have good social skills. I am very good at talking and listening, both things needed in any relationship.
Learning style
Visual style - Being able to see something to comprehend, like a power point.
Auditory style -Being able to hear a discussion and then comprehending the information.
Tactile style - Mainly using your hands
According to http://www.educationplanner.org/students/self-assessments/learning-styles-styles.shtml
If you are an auditory learner, you learn by hearing and listening. You understand and remember things you have heard. You store information by the way it sounds, and you have an easier time understanding spoken instructions than written ones.
If you are a visual learner, you learn by reading or seeing pictures. You understand and remember things by sight. You can picture what you are learning in your head, and you learn best by using methods that are primarily visual. You like to see what you are learning.
If you are a tactile learner, you learn by touching and doing. You understand and remember things through physical movement. You are a "hands-on" learner who prefers to touch, move, build, or draw what you learn, and you tend to learn better when some type of physical activity is involved. You need to be active and take frequent breaks, you often speak with your hands and with gestures, and you may have difficulty sitting still.
By looking at these explanations I see that I have some of each the qualities. I mainly am a tactile learner though. I have to be doing a lab for science to learn. I like to take notes as well. You may also find me playing with something or drawing. I also tend to chew gum while learning. Those tend to be tactile though. I said I was some of the others as well. For example I listen to music when working or close my eyes and listen to a lesson. Those are auditory learning habits. The visual habits that I have is that I like to