By: Zack Bennett
- Self-regulation is the ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods. I think I am so-so at this attribute because sometimes I can be in a bad mood and I can switch to a better mood if I thinks of something else but then again sometimes I just look at the bad side of stuff and I don't change my mood.
- Self-awareness is the ability to recognize and understand personal moods and emotions and drives as well as their effect on others. Just like self-regulation, I think at times I can be good at this attribute and sometimes I am not so good. When I am in a bad mood I can recognize that and sometimes it effects others but it usually doesn't bother or distract anyone else because I like to be by myself when I am in a bad mood.
- Internal Motivation is a passion to work for internal reasons that go beyond money and status. For example I have internal motivation to play sports because I love sports and it's not about the money or status. Some things I may have more internal motivation for then others. One thing I would have less internal motivation to do is homework. It's not my favorite thing to do so I am not going to have a lot of internal motivations to do it.
- Empathy is the ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people. I feel like I am strong in this area because I know sometimes I just need or want to talk to someone about my problems. Since I sometimes need that, I am always willing to talk about anything with anybody.
- Social Skills is the proficiency in managing relationships and building networks, and an ability to find common ground and build rapport. I feel this is my strongest area in emotional intelligence. I like to talk a lot about a lot of different things, I also love to laugh really hard. I interact with my friends very well and I think I am pretty good at interacting with new people I meet.
Grit is courage and resolve; strength of character. My grit is 3.75 which makes me more grittier than at least 70% of the US population. I could agree with that number because I can have quite a bit of grit at times and a little bit of the time I don't. Some people say you can teach grit, and some say you can't. I think you can and can't teach it. Part of it is that you are born with it or not. You either have it or not. You could teach it a some by telling students/kids that you need to be gritty and not let excuses come up and get your work done or whatever needs to be done.
Everybody has their marshmallow that they want. Mine is to be social and active with my friends, but if I don't work hard and get my work done, then that won't happen. Just like in the marshmallow video we watched with the kids, if you want more of something, you might have to wait longer. That is just like if I want more time to spend with my friends, then I need to work harder to get my work done and I'll have more time with friends.
Someone who is introvert is a shy and/or reticent person. On the other hand, someone who is extrovert is an outgoing, overtly expressive person. When I took the survey, I found out that I am more of an introvert. I find this result a little surprising and I don't know if the results are accurate because I think of myself as someone who is more outgoing and talkative. The results said that I'll devote my social energy to the people I care about most, and that I would prefer a glass of wine with a few friends over going to a party full of stranger. I agree with both of those statements (except of course the glass of wine part). It also says I think before I speak which I don't think is always true and that when I am doing something I like to do I get really into it which is very true. So after reading that, I could agree a little more with the results I got.
There are three different types of communication styles, they are aggressive, assertive, and passive. Aggressive is more of a bossy, rude communications style. It may seem like you would not want to have this type of communication style but a situation it could be good in is an emergency. If you have an assertive style you stand up for what you believe and respect the rights and beliefs of others. Being assertive in generally a good thing. The final communication style is passive. If someone is passive they are shy and quiet, they don't have a lot of self esteem and confidence. When I took a survey to see what communication style I use i found out that I am the most assertive, then passive aggressive, then aggressive, and finally passive is the least.