Confident Kids - No 1
Welcome to Confident Kids!
Our first session was productive and enjoyable. Everyone participated really well.
Unfortunately we ran out of time to complete our goals for the program. If you can talk with your child during the week about a specific goal they would like to focus on this week, as well as any other goals they have for the year ahead.
We also encourage parents to decide on a goal to focus on throughout the program. It’s a great opportunity to reflect on your own parenting strategies and identify one or two behaviours you want to improve or introduce. Some examples of parent goals are –
- Say two positive and encouraging comments to your child every day
- Introduce calm breathing practice at night with children
- Eat dinner together as a family and ask each person one positive thing about the day
Remember the happier and more confident you feel as a parent, the more effective your parenting will be!
One of the key strategies we introduced in session 1 was Mindful eating. Everyone enjoyed the marshmallows! Mindfulness is simply paying attention to what is happening right now. By helping you clearly see and better understand what's happening in, to, and around you, practicing mindfulness can help to reduce stress by
developing attention, balance and compassion.
Challenge: eat dinner together as a family mindfully.
Instructions for eating dinner together MIndfully.
Really take the time to savour each bite of food and notice the taste, texture and aroma and chew each mouth full really well so that you can fully experience the taste of your meal. Eat nice and slowly and mindfullyIt often helps to put your knife and fork down between bites. Think about your body as you are eating. Are you relaxed?
How to help your child understand Mindfulness
The Magic Triangle - connecting Thoughts, Feelings and Actions
- The Magic Triangle is a concept based on Cognitive-Behavioral therapy that explores the link between the way we think, how we feel and what we do.
- The Magic Triangle is tool to help children build self-awareness by learning to recognise their unhelpful thoughts that lead to unhelpful feelings.
- Teaching children to understand their thoughts is important. Because we have thoughts all the time we usually don’t pay much attention to them. They just come up automatically, almost like magic.
- Sometimes our thoughts are negative and we can get ‘stuck’ in these unhelpful thoughts, such as calling ourselves mean things like “I am dumb”, “I am stupid”, “I can’t do that”. Sometimes we think something terrible will happen or we can’t do something, or thinking other people don’t like us.
- If we think we always get things wrong, we might end up feeling sad or unhappy. Or if we expect things to go wrong, we might end up feeling stressed or anxious.
- Sometimes our thoughts are positive and helpful. If we are feeling happy and excited it is likely that we are thinking positive, helpful thoughts.
- In session 2 we will explore the feelings part of the Triangle and in session 3 we will explore the way we think.
2. Help your child decide on a goal for the program
3. Identify a parenting goal you can work on
4. Encourage your child to complete the Strengths Star
5. Practice 5 minutes of calm breathing every night before bed.
Resources used in the program...
Have you discovered Pinterest?
For those of you who have discovered the delights of Pinterest, you will already know that this is a brilliant virtual pinboard where you can create boards on all sorts of topics like art and craft, recipes, education etc. We have a CK Parent Resource Board on Pinterest that contains suggested resources, inspiration and ideas to help you build a resilient family.