What is Love?
Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more!
Types of love
The first kind of love was eros, named after the Greek god of fertility, and it represented the idea of sexual passion and desire. But the Greeks didn’t always think of it as something positive, as we tend to do today. The second variety of love was philia or friendship, which the Greeks valued far more than the base sexuality of eros. Philia concerned the deep comradely friendship that developed between brothers in arms who had fought side by side on the battlefield. It was about showing loyalty to your friends, sacrificing for them, as well as sharing your emotions with them. Ludus, or playful love was the Greeks’ idea, which referred to the affection between children or young lovers. We've all had a taste of it in the flirting and teasing in the early stages of a relationship. But we also live out our ludus when we sit around a campfire bantering and laughing with friends, or when we go out dancing. The fourth love, and perhaps the most radical, was agape or selfless love. This was a love that you extended to all people, whether family members or distant strangers. Agape was later translated into Latin as caritas, which is the origin of our word “charity.” Another Greek love was the mature love known as pragma. This was the deep understanding that developed between long-married couples. Pragma was about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, and showing patience and tolerance. The Greek’s sixth variety of love was philautia or self-love. And the clever Greeks realized there were two types. One was unhealthy variety associated with narcissism, where you became self-obsessed and focused on personal fame and fortune. A healthier version enhanced your wider capacity to love.
Differences between love and infatuation
This is infatuation
This is infatuation because there is no exact person for you. That doesn't even make any sense.
The quote on the left in my opinion is really cute. I honestly believe in what it says. That is real love.
Relationship scenario of infatuation
Vick says he loves his girlfriend Larissa but only likes her for her body and wants sex. One day Vick asked Larissa if they could have sex and Larissa said no, she wasn't ready. So he said that was okay and he would give her time to wait. Larissa was madly in love with Vick but the next day she got a text message from Vick saying he wanted to break up with Larissa. He didn't give her a reason why. She thought it was because all he ever wanted from her was sex. This is not love, it is infatuation.