Good, Neutral, and Bad Selfishness

What is selfishness?

When we act selfhis we are not paying attentions to others needs or well-being. We are more focused on our own well-being, wants, and needs. But selfishness is not always bad. Selfishness is devided into three groups; good, neutral, and bad selfishness.

Good, neutral, and bad selfishness

Good selfishness is when it both benefits ourselves and other people.

Bad selfishness is when the selfish person gains the expense of others.

Neutral selfishness is when you look after your own well-being, but the actions do not involve other people.

One-sided and two-sided transaction

Transactions are communications between two or more people that affect all those around.

In one-side transaction, also know as win-lose transaction, only one person is enjoying the activity but the other person is being forced to do what he doesn't want to do, therefor it is win for the person who is enjoying himself but lose for the other person.

Two-sided transaction or win-win transaction is when everyone is enjoying the actifity, therefore it is win for everyone.

Why not practice good selfishness, which benefits both ourselves and others?

A very good question mention in Good, Neutral, and Bad Selfishness by John A. Johnson, Ph.D., but why should we practice good selfishness?

One reason to practice good selfishness is because you should behave and treat others like you want to be treated. Would you for example like to be manipulated or forced to do semeone elses dirty work? No one wants that, that's why we should practice good selfishness. If you want to be treated nicely and respected you must first respect and treat othersnicely.

It is as simple as, if we behave good we atract the right people in, we become friends with people that like the same activities and/or have similar hobbies. With those people we exchange win-win transactions and that is what good selfishness is about; win-win transactions with your friends and family.