Talking with Teens and Tweens
Tips for Having Tough Conversations with Teens
Practice Tips
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Have a Conversation, Not a Confrontation
Also, it's as important, if not more, that you listen to her.
One very important note: Do not start the conversation when you can tell your child is drunk or high. Hold off until she is sober.
Here are a few tips for having more productive conversations:
1. Show your concern. – Express to your child that you're worried about her (example, "You haven't been yourself lately").
2. Keep a cool head. – Try your best not to overreact to what your child has done in the past. Instead, focus on making it clear what you want him to do in the future.
3. Be direct. – Clearly state your concerns as well as any evidence you've found ("You're not showering, your grades have dropped, and I found empty beer cans in your car").
4. Watch your tone of voice. Even though you want to scream and yell, it's important to speak in a calm, relaxed voice so that you don't push your teen away.
5. Let your teen know you value his honesty and are willing to listen without making judgments (but this doesn't mean there will not be consequences).
6. Try not to be defensive. When she makes generalizations or critical remarks, don't take them personally. They are opportunities for discussion.
7. Talk about your own memories of being a teen and the mistakes you made. This can help you and your child relate to each other better.
8. Show your love. Physical connection can play an important role, too. Put a hand on your teen's shoulder or give him a hug when it feels right.
9. Set up and use family meetings to full advantage. Get input from each person on rules, etc., curfews, on the consequences of breaking rules.
10. Give lots of praise and positive feedback. Teens need to hear the "good stuff" just like the rest of us. They need to know you can still see beyond the things they've done wrong. Don't be controlled by your teen. While it's important to listen and be sympathetic to your teen, remember you're the parent and you know best.
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