Effects Of Divorce On Children
Why It Needs To Stop By: Callie Simpson
We All Know Someone Who Has Been A Product Of Divorced Parents
The rate at which American couples are filing for divorce needs to decrease due to the negative short term and long term effects on their children throughout their life.
Emotional Toll It Takes On Children
Child Lacks Quality Support System
Due to the child not having a quality support system, they become so unsure and overthink everything. Without anyone to help them manage these overwhelming feelings, it leads to fears of loss, betrayal, and even abandonment. This changes their personality characteristics and they have problems coping and adjusting with new things in their life.
Suicide
All these feelings that they have and the unruly behavior that they have obtained begin to lead the child to attempts of suicide. Children of divorce are TWICE as likely to attempt suicide.
Relationship With Parents
The relationship is very weak between the non custodial parent and the child because the child rarely sees the parens and therefore the child is not receiving all the love and affection they need. As a result, death of a parent is less devastating to a child than the divorce itself.
Short Term Effects
Noticeable Behavior Effects
Noticeable behavior effects include partaking in sexual intercourse, drugs, and alcohol abuse. Due to these behavior problems, these children are likely to be incarcerated for committing a crime as a juvenile.
School
On account of their reckless behavior, they begin to care less about their well being, school work, and those around them. Children of divorced homes are less likely to graduate high school.
Illness
Children that come from a divorced home commonly experience illness more frequently. They also tend to not recover from it as fast as others.
Long Term Effects
Escaping Childhood
As they start to grow into their late teens and twenties, the daughter or son affected from the divorce tends to have rising anxiety. Going through this stage, the feelings and memories of their parents divorce begins to reappear but with new anxiety.
Their Marriage
We see these effects of divorce they witnessed as a child specifically when the person is involved in a marriage. Due to what they have been through as a child with their parents, this automatically makes them have less faith in marriage. Less faith in marriage directly correlates to why children of divorce separate when older.
Attitude
Although sometimes the adult grasped that divorce might have been the right thing for the parents to do in the long run, they still resented them for it. There was a persistence of anger at the parent who initiated the divorce, they had moderate to severe clinical depression, anger, resentment, and hostility. This are not things that lead to a happy life.
What To Take Away?
Although you can see how deeply divorce can affect us, we can't let it define us. We can't let what our parents have chosen us to do negatively influence us. These situations can make us stronger, driven, and even make us want to give our children what we didn't have when the time comes.
Having Trouble With Your Divorce?
Don't put your kids through the heart wrenching effects of divorce. Take a step toward fixing it with your significant other by visiting the Divorce Help website or contacting them over phone.
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