Parenting Styles
by: Luka Zrnic and Matthew Difranesco
Permissive Parenting
The parent acts as more of a guide/resource rather than someone who dictates what the child will do. The parent will allow the child to his own activities as much as possible. The parent makes few rules about behavior or responsibilities, and doesn't set expectations. When rules are established for their kids they are usually inconsistent. It is worthy to note that parents who raise their kids in such a fashion are very nurturing and display lots of love to their children, they do not neglect them. An example of this kind of parenting is bribing children with incentives such as toys in order to make them behave properly, or how the parents want them to behave. Kids raised in this style will tend to be more anti-social, and seeing as they were not properly disciplined, they tend to stray from disciplining their children. Diving into the personalities of the children raised by these parents, they usually lack self-control as well as maturity. Additionally the children tend to avoid any sort of confrontation and often feel a strong sense of insecurity.
Authoritative Parenting
The parent attempts to control the child, but in a way that is more rational. She explains the reasoning behind rules and policies. She enforces her own point of view, but also recognizes the child's individual interests. The parent recognizes current qualities, but also sets standards for future conduct. Authoritative parents will listen to the input of their children all while strongly encouraging independent behavior from their offspring. They additionally allow for discussion of opinions and conjointly express warmth and nurture their children. This method is usually utilized by parents who seek a multitude of achievement from their children. These children tend to be lively and happy, self confident about abilities, well developed emotional regulation, developed social skills, and are less likely to conform to gender typed traits. The reason as to why authoritative parenting is so effective is due to the fact that the guardians act as a sort of role model in that they display and show all of the behaviors that they want their children to exhibit. Thus, their children follow in their parents footsteps and this leads to proper development.
Authoritarian Parenting
The parent attempts to shape, control, and evaluate the behavior and attitudes of the child in accordance with a set standard of conduct, usually an absolute standard. They value obedience as a virtue and favor forceful measures to curb self-will at points where the child's actions or beliefs conflict with what she thinks is right conduct. She regards the preservation of order and traditional structure as a highly valued end in itself. She does not encourage verbal give and take, believing that the child should accept her word for what is right. These parents are generally very unresponsive to their children and only set expectations, nothing more. Punishment is very key in this style of parenting and is usually executed with very little prompt or reason. Children from this upbringing are likely to do well in school, and not partake in activities such as drug abuse, vandalism and gangs. However they usually have poor reactions to frustration, and feel anxious and withdrawn. Strangely they usually make a non-existent connection between success and love, and conjointly display heightened aggression outside of their home environment. It is very important to note that these children have very low self-esteem as adults and even throughout their childhood.
Uninvolved Parenting
Although not mentioned by Diana Baumrind, Uninvolved parenting, or neglectful parenting is indeed a type of parenting. These parents to do not tend to care much, if at all for their child’s needs, thus the term neglectful. These parents have very little emotional involvement with their children and they pretty much offer on the most rudimentary needs such as food, water, and shelter. As a result of all of this, these parents have very few or no expectations for their children and may even be purposefully distant and neglect their offspring. Many a time, these parents are too divulged in their own problems to deal with their kids. Children raised by these parents must learn for themselves and have trouble depending on or trusting other people besides themselves. As children they tend to have more delinquent personalities and are ridden with anxiety and stress because of the lack of care given to them. They additionally are more likely than other youths to use and abuse certain substances. Sadennligly, yet not unexpectedly, these types of children very often underperform in nearly every area of their lives, in addition to have severe issues with attachment and therefore lack a multitude of social abilities. Almost in every case of uninvolved parenting, the parents themselves were raised by uninvolved or neglectful parents.