Wellness Wednesday
What To Say To Someone Who is NOT Okay
How do I respond?
Here are some helpful tips on how you can comfort and support someone going through a difficult time:
1. Show them that you're open to talk ("Would you like to talk about it?")
But remember, everyone experiences their emotions differently, so if someone does not want to speak about it, simply show them compassion, be patient, and give them some time and space.
2. Listen and avoid imposing your opinions or advice (Simply listen to them without judgment)
Remember, it's not about you and your two cents. Your goal is to give them your full and undivided attention.
3. Witness and affirm their feelings ("I hear you. I can see how this is a hard time for you") Provide empathetic, reflecting, and affirming responses. The goal is to validate their feelings and reiterate that the conversation is being held in a safe space.
4. Don't minimize their pain or focus only on cheering them up (Avoid saying clichés such as: "cheer up", "count your blessings", "things will get better " or "it could be worse")
Phrases such as these may make the person feel unheard, not validated, and as if you're trying to minimize their experiences.
5. Offer Further Resources (If you become concerned, you can voice your concerns in an empathic way for them to reach out for additional assistance).
If the person refuses, don't force it on them. The simple fact that you even brought it up may sway their decision in the future for them to seek assistance on their own.
6. Affirm your support and commitment (Check-in on them)
Take time to show them genuine care and concern; remind them that you are there for them.