DDMS Student Support Services
Character Trait quotes for the summer months
June is Wisdom
July is Caring
August is Fairness
Wisdom - The quality of having experience, knowledge, and sound decision making.
"A journey of a thousand miles begins with just one step." - Lao Tzu
Caring - Showing understanding of others by treating them with kindness, compassion, generosity and a forgiving spirit.
Never believe that a few caring people can't change the world.
For, indeed, that's all who ever have." - Margaret Mead
Fairness - Practicing justice, equity, and equality. Cooperating with one another. Recognizing the uniqueness and value of each individual within our diverse society.
"Fairness isn't giving every child the same thing,
it means giving every child what they need." - Rick Lavoie
End of the School Year!!!!!
Rising 6th Grade Happenings
First, I want to give a huge welcome to all of the incoming 6th grade DDMS Panthers!! Can you believe that you're finished with elementary school? You're finally ready to step into the big world of middle school, so let's make sure you're prepared for August 28th!
Please make sure you attend Panther Pride Camp on Wednesday, August 23rd. At PPC, you'll be able to pick up your class schedule, meet your teachers, walk the school (so you won't get lost those first few days), purchase locks/agendas/spirit wear, meet other incoming 6th graders and MUCH MUCH MORE!! This is a fantastic opportunity to feel even better about starting middle school.
Once you get your school supply lists, please make sure you buy all the necessary supplies but don't go overboard! I know you're excited, but more than likely, you will need basic supplies for the first few days/week of school.
Purchase a combination lock over the summer because you will need one for your locker in the locker room when you dress out for gym. This will also provide you with lots of great practice with working a combination lock so if you choose to have a locker on the 6th grade hall, you'll be able to navigate the combination lock without any issues. Practice makes progress!
Try to relax this summer and have lots of fun! School will start before you know it and I'm looking forward to working with all of you throughout your middle school experience.
6th Grade Counselor
Rising 7th Grade Happenings
This summer look to explore areas of interest, relax, read, reflect, and regroup. I will be moving to 7th grade with you guys and I look forward to supporting you throughout a 7th grade year full of challenges and successes. Have a great summer!
7th Grade Counselor
Rising 8th Grade Happenings
Congratulations! You successfully made it through 7th grade, which I think can be the most challenging year of middle school. Now that summer is here, please take the time to rest, relax, and have fun.
Come back ready to make an IMPACT! Others will be looking up to you so set a good example now.
When school starts back in August, keep a watchful eye on our Student Services website as will post information pertaining to 8th graders and the high school transition throughout the school year that will be time sensitive.
Have a fun and safe summer! Make good choices and always be kind.
8th Grade Counselor
From our school nurse
Reminder for parents of Rising 7th graders:
Your child will need additional vaccines before the start school in August. North Carolina now requires Tdap and Meningococcal vaccines for entry into 7th grade. Please mail updated vaccine records to us a soon as possible or drop them off in the main office over the summer.
Summer is a time for relaxation but also enrichment and remediation. Here is a link to many of the summer opportunities available in our area.
Helpful website for parenting in this technological world
Tips for Parents - Help kids overcome fears, anxiety and perfectionism
Help kids overcome fears, anxiety and perfectionism
BY MICHAEL GROSE
Perhaps the most exciting news in the parenting area over the last decade is the discovery of brain plasticity. That is, the brain is always growing and developing as opposed to it developing and plateauing at a certain age; and then it’s all downhill from there. It’s exciting to know that your child’s talent and smarts are not fixed. Their brains can always learn more, continue to grow and be stretched. This doesn’t mean that your child doesn’t have a propensity to be smart in certain areas such as maths or language learning or that all talent is created equal. Genetics gifts us with certain abilities that are either developed or they’re not. Instead, your child’s abilities and talents, just like yours, are evolving over time.
So as parents it seems smart that you should be developing a growth mindset in your child. A fixed mindset is limiting, even debilitating for kids. You want them to believe that with effort and practice they can develop their skills and abilities in whatever area or interest they want.
Science is on their side – their brains will continue to grow and stretch however a fixed mindset will let them down. If they believe that intelligence and talent is fixed then those beliefs will become self-fulfilling prophecies. Once again, it all comes down to attitude!
Carol Dweck, author of “The New Psychology of Success” believes that a growth mindset is the quality that separates those who succeed from those who don’t. Her research reveals how the use of language when praising kids can have a profound impact on their attitudes. Subtle differences in tone, wording and phrasing can lead even a child at two and half to have self-limiting beliefs when he or she started school a few years later.
The problem with praising intelligence and ability is that it leads to fixed mindset development. Kids believe that their success is reliant on their ability or talent, rather than their effort or attitude. So to be respected and recognized as successful they become risk-adverse. Far better to achieve some success no matter how meagre, than risk failure and being seen as dumb, stupid or a failure.
So how can a parent develop a growth mindset in children? Well, it does come down to language and a few other strategies as well. Here are three simple ideas to get you started:
1. Praise effort, strategy and action, not results
Focus more on the processes of what kids do rather than results to develop a growth mindset. Kids need to hear comments such as “You worked hard to get that right!”(effort), “That was a smart idea to tackle the hardest task while you were fresh!”(strategy) and “You recognized the first few steps were the most important but then after that you were right.”(action). This type of praise and encouragement helps kids develop the belief that success has more to do with what they do than innate smarts and talents.
2. Look for opportunities to stretch your child’s capabilities
Encourage kids to stretch their capabilities by adding depth and breadth to their list of activities. Boys, in particular, often go deep investing all their time into areas such as sport or online gaming to develop their talents over time. Encourage them to stretch their capabilities across a range of areas rather than a few. Conversely, encourage a child who dabbles in many areas or interests without specialising in any area, to go deeper in one area.
3. Give honest feedback
Providing your child with honest feedback about their performance not only helps them improve, but also promotes a growth mindset. We often shy away from giving feedback for fear of harming children’s self-esteem. Confidence can be maintained by being sensitive to how we provide feedback. For instance, focusing on two or three things kids do well before giving constructive feedback is one way you can keep a young learner’s head up while giving pointers about better performance.
Having brain plasticity means that we can continue to acquire new skills, learn new things and embed new habits across our lifespan. It is important then that we help children develop a growth mindset so that they can reap the benefits of brain plasticity over their lifetime rather than be limited by their belief systems.
Full excerpt can be found at parentingideas.com
Student Support Services Team
Terri Dingess: Student Services Assistant x. 22071
Helen Everitt: School Counselor 6th grade x. 22069
Scott Nilsen: School Counselor 7th grade x. 22067
Michelle Young: School Counselor 8th grade x. 22068
Caroline Yates: School Counselor All grades x. 22066
Sara Davis: School Social Worker x. 22058
Kathy Vitiello: School Psychologist (919)387-2130 x. 21989