January 13, 2019
Events This Week
Monday, January 14
Basketball [Boys 1st] Northridge @ MHMS 5:00 - 7:00 pm (HOME)
Tuesday, January 15
PTSA Board Meeting 5:30 - 7:00 pm (Media)
Wednesday, January 16
Thursday, January 17
Basketball [Boys 1st] MHMS @ Albemarle Road 5:00 - 7:00 pm (AWAY)
Friday, January 18
- Last day of 2nd quarter and 1st semester
Together in Education with Harris Teeter
Remember to LINK your Harris Teeter VIC card to MHMS.
Every time you shop and use your VIC card, a percentage comes back to our school. It’s that simple! Please visit www.harristeeter.com and click on “together in education” to link your card.
Thank you for supporting our school!
Girls on the Run
Attention all MHMS girls- Sign up for our Girls on the Run Heart and Sole team!
This is a fun after school program that teaches healthy living, confidence, and much more all while training for a 5K.
Registration for Heart and Sole will begin online January 7 and ends February 3. The lottery for team placement will occur February 4-6. The Mint Hill team will meet on Tuesdays and Wednesdays 3:15-4:45 beginning February 12. Go to www.gotrcharlotte.org/program-registration to learn more and to sign up. See Mrs. Brown or Mrs. Teague on the 8th grade hall if you are interested in signing up.
YEARBOOKS ARE ON SALE NOW!!!
All sales are online.
or click the yearbook link on the
MHMS website to place your order.
Online sales end January 25, 2019.
Pre-ordering online is the only way to guarantee that you get a yearbook.
Please make sure that you receive a confirmation email after placing your order.
If you have questions, please contact Mrs. Staviski.
CFNC Education Night
The MHMS Counseling Department is proud to sponsor “A Night with CFNC”. This is an opportunity for parents and students to learn more about the College Foundation of North Carolina (CFNC) and how to begin planning for college and post-secondary education with your middle school student. The program will be held January 30 at 5:30 PM at Mint Hill Middle. Please RSVP at this link www.tinyurl.com/MHMSCFNC19 . We look forward to sharing this important information with you.
Attention all 8th graders attending Butler High School next year:
Are you interested in a career in health sciences? You should consider applying for the Butler Academy of Health Sciences. This academy provides students the opportunity to take rigorous courses as a cohort that prepare students for college and a career in the health sciences field. For more information visit butleraohs.weebly.com or see Mrs. Brown (8th grade counselor) for an application. Applications are due to Mrs. Brown by January 25.
College 101: Resources to Help Pay For College
Monday, Jan. 28th, 6-7pm
Mint Hill Branch library
College Foundation of North Carolina is a free service of the State of North Carolina that assists students with education planning, career planning, and applying and paying for college. A CFNC representative will walk us through the website CFNC.org, and discuss free resources to help pay for college.
*Registration is required. Register by calling 704-416-5200 or by going online at: http://events.cmlibrary.org/eventsignup.asp?ID=331457
The No Complaining Rule
If you are a regular reader of this column, you will know that I am a big fan of author Jon Gordon. In the past, I shared my experiences after reading his book The Positive Dog, and I devoted a large portion of this column in previous years to going through lessons learned by his character George while riding The Energy Bus. Last week, I shared One Word That Will Change Your Life. (I am still waiting to hear from you: What is your One Word for 2019?) This week, as we are firmly back to work and all have a tendency to forget how relaxed and calm we were over break, I thought it would be a great idea to revisit another Jon Gordon favorite: The No Complaining Rule. I generally think of this title as the third installment of a trilogy consisting of it, The Positive Dog, and The Energy Bus.
The No Complaining Rule is a fable that describes a company that finds itself in a huge PR nightmare when a product—a computer battery—suddenly begins to catch on fire and the ensuring negative publicity threatens to consume the company along with Hope, the main character, who is tasked with creating an action plan to “right the ship”. As Hope seeks a way to restore her company—all while dealing with a failed marriage, troubled relationships with her teenage children, a personal health crisis, and her own and others’ professional burnout—she comes to see that the root of all of these varied problems is negativity that expresses itself through constant complaining.
As Hope quickly learns, the costs of negativity are staggering:
Negativity costs the U.S. economy $250 to $300 billion dollars in lost productivity each year;
90 % of doctor visits are related to stress;
Negative employees scare customers away, sometimes forever; and
Negative emotions are associated with decreased life span and longevity; increased risk of heart attack and stroke; greater stress, less energy, more pain, fewer friends, and less success.
While Hope quickly realizes that all of these results are undesirable, she cannot get herself out of the rut of negativity as she has let complaining become a habit in her life. She can’t, that is, until an oncology nurse named Joyce introduces her to the NO COMPLAINING RULE while Hope is waiting for some medical tests. As their conversations progress, Joyce shares the following strategies with Hope to help her implement the NO COMPLAINING RULE in her life:
Go on a Complaining Fast: Begin with a No Complaining Day in which you commit to monitor your thoughts and words for a single day and nip any negativity or complaining in the bud as Barney Fife used to say. Once you are successful with going a full day with less complaining, try a week, then a month, then a…you get the picture. Just like we complain out of habit, we can learn to stop if we are focused on what we think and say.
The But…Positive Technique: This helps to turn complaints into positive thoughts by refocusing and getting us on a positive track forward. As you monitor your thoughts and words and catch yourself complaining, quickly add the word “but” followed by a positive thought. For example, I am trying to get more exercise and get in shape, but am finding that certain exercises hurt more as I get older. Rather than complaining, I have found myself exploring exercises that I CAN do without pain and trying to focus on the positives. So, my self-talk with this technique goes like, “Dips really make my shoulders hurt, but I am glad that I can still do pushups without pain” or “Running makes my shins hurt, but I am glad I can still walk to stay healthy”. The end result is that focusing on what I can do leads to me doing something; if I stayed focused on what I couldn’t do as easily as before, I would likely just keep complaining and do nothing.
Focus on “Get to” instead of “Have to”: Sometimes, the task of writing this weekly column can result in my complaining or not wanting to do it as I struggle to come up with an idea. In this, as in other situations, I find myself grumbling that I “have to” write a column. Gordon suggests that we can move closer to complaining less if we shift our thinking to focus on things that we “get to do” instead of “have to do”. So, I feel better about writing a column when I focus on the fact that I get to tell you about something cool like the NO COMPLAINING RULE that might inspire you instead of just selfishly thinking that I “have to write another column”. This, too, works in lots of instances. For example, this past Tuesday when I was tired from staying up too late watching Clemson beat Alabama, I reminded myself that I was thankful that I had a job and that I got to go to work instead of thinking I had to!
Turn Complaints into Solutions: All complaints aren’t bad and Gordon isn’t suggesting that we should we bury our heads in the sand and gloss over everything. He is simply trying to eliminate the mindless complaining that serves no purpose other than to make everyone feel bad. Justified complaining can be positive if we couple it with a focus on problem-solving and generating solutions. Gordon suggests that justified complaining involves us identifying a problem—the complaint—and then thinking through possible solutions instead of staying stuck on the complaint. As he says, this approach helps us to see that “every complaint represents an opportunity to turn a negative into a positive”.
If these ideas strike a chord with you as they did with me, I hope that you will try some of these strategies to implement The No Complaining Rule in your personal life, at home, at work, and anywhere you find yourself prone to complain. I also encourage you to share it with those around you. Just as I shared with The Positive Dog column, finding ways to feed the positive dog and starve the negative dog will make a huge difference in your life and the lives of those around you. Implementing The No Complaining Rule is an outstanding way to do this!