Ellen Ochoa Elementary
WEEK OF JANUARY 23rd, 2023
Learn, Lead and Light the Way--A Leader in Me School
*Leader in Me Family Focus*
Making Deposits Into Your Child’s Emotional Bank Account by Susan Wilson, LIM Consultant
What is an emotional bank account? Dr. Stephen R. Covey, the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families®, defines an emotional bank account as one’s relationship with another. He explains the concept of an emotional bank account with a metaphor: “By proactively doing things that build trust in a relationship, one makes ‘deposits.’
Conversely, by reactively doing things that decrease trust, one makes ‘withdrawals.’ The current ‘balance’ in the emotional bank account, will determine how well two people can communicate and problem-solve together.” If you are struggling to communicate with your child you may need to ask yourself, “Do I need to make more deposits?”
When an emotional bank account has more deposits then withdrawals the people involved in that relationship will trust each other. Ridvan Foxhall Occupational Therapist and Educator states, “One of the key foundations of a strong relationship is trust. In order to build trust, one must continually make deposits of honesty, kindness, unconditional love, patience, all of those essential virtues that strengthen any relationship. In doing so, we build large reserves in the emotional bank account.”
Parents will make mistakes and will make withdrawals from their child’s emotional bank account. Understanding the difference between the deposits and withdrawals will help parents to build a large reserve of deposits in their children’s emotional bank account.
What are common withdrawals?
- Checking your phone when your child is speaking to you
- Nagging
- Yelling or screaming at your child
- Criticizing them
- Being sarcastic
- Talking about them negatively to others
- Interrupting them when they are speaking to you
When we realize that we are making these withdrawals, we need to quickly apologize and stop making these withdrawals. We need to replace the withdrawals with deposits.
Ideas for making deposits in your child’s emotional bank account
- Apologize when you make a mistake
- Really listen- no interrupting or looking at your phone
- Spend time with them- play a game or cook with them
- Greet them as they come home
- Notice what they are doing
- Attend their activities
- Be kind and patient
- When children make a mistake, be compassionate and help them to solve their own problem
- Laugh with them
- Spend one on one time with them
- Keep your promises
- Relationships take time and lots of love.
Families can learn how to make deposits in each other’s accounts. As the deposits increase, the challenges your family may have had in the past will now become opportunities to build trust. Communication will improve in homes when children feel that their opinion is valued. The home is a place where children learn relationship skills that will help them through adulthood. Families can affect future generations by modeling kindness to others and contributing to healthy relationships.
*UPCOMING EVENTS AND REMINDERS*
Ochoa Class Valentine's Day Parties - Tuesday, February 14th, 2:10-2:40
Tuesday, February 21st - Teacher Professional Day - No School for Students
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Hug O Grams
- 1/19: Each student will be given a form to bring home. Families and students can then select to give a gram, a snack, and write a short message to individual friends, or an entire class. Grams are $1 per student, or $20 for an entire class (usually 22-26 students).
- 1/26: Forms are due back to school by 1/26.
- 2/14: Students will be given the grams on 2/14
The design of the grams is beside to help give you an idea.
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After-School Programs This Week
Reminders:
- Programs run from 3:15-4:15
- Busses are different than regular school, please remind your student if they are leaving after school time on Bus A or Bus B (info is on the confirmation letter).
- Car pick up for after school programs is in the Green loop. Students will be leaving the building between 4:15-4:19.
- Project Village participants have the option to stay after school every day. Please speak with Sally Ramirez if you have questions.
Monday
Glee Club
Recycling Rangers
EARLY Entrepreneurship
Cross Scouts
Litterbug Crew
Soccer Friends (2nd/3rd Grade)
*Project Village programming is available every day
Tuesday
Good News Club
Gaining Ground Literacy Project (1st/2nd Grade)
Tulsa Changemakers
Student Lighthouse
Girls 101 (4th Grade)
Robotics
Resident Artist
Tae Kwon Do
Soccer Squad (4th/5th Grade)
*Project Village programming is available every day
Wednesday
EARLY Entrepreneurship
Glee Club
Humble Warrior Yoga
Litterbug Crew
*Project Village programming is available every day
Thursday
Violin- Please send students to school with their violin
Girls Scouts Brownies (2nd/3rd Grade)
Gaining Ground Literacy Project
Tulsa Changemakers
I-Luminate Podcast
Robotics
Tennis
Soccer Squad (4th/5th Grade)
*Project Village programming is available every day
Friday
*Project Village programming is available every day
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English language classes
English Language Learning Conversation Circles at Ochoa Elementary
Parents and/or guardians, looking to expand your English as a Second Language (ESL)? A certified teacher from the YWCA will provide you with the opportunity to expand your vocabulary, learn from others, and gain confidence in speaking through a supportive conversation circle. Childcare provided. Register for this free class because space is limited.
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Ochoa is hiring lunch duty assistants
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January Social-Emotional Newsletter
Check out the 3 page January 2023 Union SEL Newsletter HERE.
Community School Coordinators
We are here to help and assist you and your family in any way that we can and are able to. We can direct you to organizations that may be able to help, such as support with the following resources:
- Clothing Request - coats, shoes, etc.
- Medical & Dental resources
- Utility Assistance
- After-school programs
- Food
Please feel free to contact us via email: Andrea Zambrano: zambrano.andrea@unionps.org or Derek Frey: frey.derek@unionps.org. Through phone: 918-357-8416. We speak Spanish as well.
Ellen Ochoa Elementary
VISION
Ellen Ochoa is an inclusive community that cultivates and celebrates social, emotional, and academic growth. We seek to empower each other to discover our unique gifts and talents to positively impact our community and world.
MOTTO
Learn, Lead and Light the Way
Email: long.rita@unionps.org
Website: unionps.org
Location: 12000 East 31st Street, Tulsa, OK, USA
Phone: 918-357-4330
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenochoaelementary/
Twitter: @unionpsorg
Ellen Ochoa is hiring for lunch duty assistants. This is a great opportunity to serve your community and school and get paid while you do it! If you have students at Ochoa, this would be a wonderful opportunity and allows you to work during their lunch block.
Lunch duty assistant information:
- Ochoa’s lunch is from 10:15-1:45pm. Our work hours are flexible. You could work 10:15-1:45pm., 10:15am. – 12 noon or 12 noon-1:45pm.
- We require a minimum of 3 days a week
- The pay is $10/hour.
- Each grade (KG-5th) has a 30 minute lunch. You will be in charge of students in the cafeteria while they eat their lunch. You will help monitor & supervise students during lunch. Students throw their own trash away & clean their own tables.
We appreciate your time and thank you in advance for joining the Ochoa family and making a huge impact on our students and community!
For questions or more information please contact: Teresa Besses at 918-357-4330 or email: besses.teresa@unionps.org!