Character Education

LaTraci Aldridge, Family Resource Coordinator

What happened in December?

This month we discussed Goal setting and Academic Performance. We learned what a goal is. A goal is a desired outcome. What a person strives to achieve through time and effort. We also learned that there are 2 kinds of goals: short term and long term goals. Short term goals can be achieved in a matter of minutes, days a few weeks or even a year. Long term goals take take to accomplish. Short term goals can be stepping stones to completing our long term goals. We gave have academic or personal goals. You can use goal setting in any area of your life. One important point to remember is that without a plan a goal is nothing more than a thought. And even with a plan a goal can never achieved unless you put some action behind it. We also discussed steps to develop a goal and a plan of action. I encourage all of you to start working on setting goals in your life. Refer to the Kmail sent on 12/4/15 for goal setting worksheets to help you with getting started.

Make sure your goals are always S.M.A.R.T.

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What's coming up in January?

In January we will be discussing social/relationship skills. How to be a good friend? Am I a good friend. What does the word friend mean? For some it may mean 1 thing and for some it may mean something completely different. The class will be offered on 1/22/16 and 1/29/16.

Parent's Corner

"Because I said so!" Have you ever said this before? I, personally, am laughing at the few times I have said this myself to my children or children I have worked with in the past. And when I have said it, as soon as the words fall off my lips I immediately wish I didn't. I haven't been a parent for 20+ years nor have I worked with children for 20+ years. However, I have worked with children of all different backgrounds, issues, behavior problems and setback for almost 10 years and this is 1 thing I have learned through my experiences. No child wants to hear this and most don't respond to this. I know, I know. The "because I said so" should be enough and all they need to comply. Oh how I wish this was the case. If you are like me, you may have grown up in a house where this was said several times and you knew not to question it and there wasn't usually much more said after this statement.

As I look back at my childhood, I can think of times when I question why I had to do certain things. Not too much, because I knew better, but just enough. I can joke with my mom now on some of the things I did and said as a child and those oh so lovely teenage years. She tells me, quite often, how challenging I was at times. She saw it as challenging and I just saw it as seeking understanding. Yes, that's what I will call my borderline rebellion :) As I have worked with children more I have learned that they sometimes just need an understanding of why they need to do certain things. Even when I worked in the juvenile detention center, I found that the kids were more inclined to comply when they understood the why behind it. Was this always the case? Ha! Of course not. After all, I was working in a detention center so they were use to not following the rules and being okay with it.

Stop and think about it for a second. Look back at your job, or even the things that come down the pipeline with TNVA. How many times have you stopped and said to yourself, "Why in the world do we have to do this?" I'm sure you have at least once. So in a sense, this is what a child feels like when we say "Because I said so." I understand everything you won't be able to explain in full detail, but what can explain, I think its beneficial that you do. I may not always like what I have to do with my job or previous jobs, but when I get a better understanding of why then I can deal with it better and put my feelings/thoughts about it to the side.

God put us here to prepare this place for the next generation. That's our job. Raising children and helping the community, that's preparing for the next generation. Dikembe Mutombo

LaTraci Aldridge, Family Resource Coordinator