South Oaks School
Dates to Remember
March 1 - New Book Event & Literacy Month Closing Assembly 9:30 AM - "Superheroes"
March 4-15 - South Oaks Fundraiser: World's Finest Chocolates
March 4 - Kindergarten Reports available on Parent Portal 4 PM
March 8 - Administration Day - No Classes
March 14,15 - Kindergarten Parent/Teacher Conferences
March 15 - Grade 1-4 Report Cards Issued
March 22 - Assembly at 9:15 AM
March 22 - Last day of classes before Spring Break
March 25-29 - Spring Break - No School
April 1 - First day of Spring Term
What does it mean to be an “Alpha?” parent?
At the recent Gordon Neufeld sessions, we learned about the Alpha and Dependent roles in relationships. According to Dr. Neufeld, people don’t attach at the same level, but rather It is hierarchical. So, an Alpha connects to a Dependent. An Alpha does not connect to another Alpha. The Alpha and Dependent roles can be traded at times, but attachment requires both roles to facilitate a connection.
Dr. Neufeld suggested that in our current culture, a lot of adults are taking a Dependent role with their children. When that happens, the child instinctively takes the Alpha role. We see more and more students at school with this Alpha complex and it is a source of great frustration for the child. They try to be in charge, but they can’t because they are children. This frustration can result in all sorts of aggressive behaviour because the frustration can not be resolved.
So, the adults need to step into the Alpha role, but what does that look like? Dr. Neufeld says the parent as the Alpha sends messages such as, “I’ve got you, You have come to the right person, I’ve got the solution for you, I will help you, don’t worry.” Alpha is not about being intimidating or domineering. The power you need as a parent will come once the attachment is secure.
To support parents in learning more about the importance of attachment, we have purchased a parent program on DVD. The material consists of 24 sessions with Dr. Neufeld. This would be great to do as a small group or with your spouse. We will have these DVDs available in the library if you are interested. Just see our librarian if you wish to borrow them for a time.
Have a great month!
South Oaks School Fundraiser
The World's Finest Chocolate sales fundraiser will run from Mar. 4-15. This annual fundraiser is a partnership between the PTA and the school. Fundraising proceeds will go towards the new piano for our assemblies, as well as some technology tools for the school.
This year, we are trying some new Laura Secord chocolate bar products, as well as the chocolate covered almonds that are very popular. The cost for either a chocolate bar or a box of almonds is now $3.00. We will have prizes for the top 3 highest sales and also a prize for the class that sells the most product. Thank-you for your support for our annual fundraiser.
Kindergarten Parent/Teacher Conferences
School Supply Shopping for 2019-20
If you have any concerns about this approach, please provide feedback to the PTA or to the school office. We want to hear what you think! Thanks in advance for your ideas and your willingness to consider trying something new.
Triple P - New positive parenting course starts soon…
When? April 2, 9, 16, 30, 2019
6:15 pm - 8:15 pm
Where? New Bothwell School
Who? Jocelyn Kingshott RN BN - Public Health Nurse
BOOKINGS AND INFORMATION
To register call: Jocelyn @ 204-346-7013
First come first serve basis.
A waiting list will be started for those who cannot register due to class being full.