Daily Admin Update
Day 66
Good Morning,
We had a great construction meeting yesterday. They are currently hanging dry wall, painting and are getting a little stopped up with city water because of Coronavirus they are not shutting off water for hookups. We hope that that will be resolved soon. Windows are going in this week and next. It is really beginning to come together.
If you have high schoolers I found the resource below, I don't have a whole lot of information around it other than it helps kids understand the risks around their behavior and how it can affect others.
I hope that you have a day filled with beautiful weather, family and joy.
Much Love,
Sarah
Fall semester could be delayed - CalMatters
Most of California is gearing up to reopen, with one notable exception: schools.
The superintendents of six school districts collectively enrolling nearly 1 million students warned Gov. Gavin Newsom and top lawmakers Monday that their fall reopening would be delayed due to the governor’s proposed $6.5 billion cut to school funding.
- Superintendents of Los Angeles, San Diego, Long Beach, San Francisco, Oakland and Sacramento City Unified school districts in a letter: “Cuts will mean that the reopening of schools will be delayed even after state guidance and clearance from public health officials is given. The notion that schools can continue to operate safely in the fall with a decreased state budget is not realistic.”
The letter highlights what is likely to be a messy, confusing, inconsistent return to school in the fall, with districts starting at different times and with different levels of preparedness. The state said last week school districts can decide for themselves when to reopen for the fall semester, and Newsom suggested some schools could reopen as early as July.
Meanwhile, millions of California’s college students won’t physically return to campus soon. Fall classes at California’s 115 community colleges will likely be held online, Chancellor Eloy Ortiz Oakley said Monday, less than a week after Cal State’s 23 campuses announced an online fall semester. The 10-campus University of California system is expected to decide its fall plans in mid-June.
Most of the K-12 superintendents who wrote the warning letter to Newsom said they plan to stick with their scheduled openings for now, but inadequate funding will affect what reopening looks like.
- Xilonin Cruz-Gonzalez, president of the state school boards association: “This budget would be insufficient in ordinary times, and is less than what is required for most schools to reopen safely during a pandemic. If schools don’t reopen, our economy can’t fully reopen.”
Tiny Victories: Strengths and Skills Kids in Our Community Are Building at Home
The coronavirus pandemic has thrown all of our lives for a very big loop. Families are coping with huge changes to routines. They’re trying to make the best of distance learning and being stuck at home. All of this can be especially challenging for kids who learn and think differently.
That’s why it’s so important to acknowledge the “tiny victories.” Whether your child is staying focused for longer periods of time or finishing a math problem without giving up, a win is a win—and it deserves a celebration.
9 Ways to Show Empathy When Your Child Is Struggling
When your child misbehaves or struggles in school, it’s not always easy to be empathetic. But showing that you understand and respect your child’s needs can help build motivation and self-esteem. It also builds trust between the two of you.
Here are nine ways to respond with empathy when your child is struggling.
1. Use the “Platinum Rule,” not the “Golden Rule.”
You’ve probably learned the Golden Rule: Treat others the way you’d like them to treat you. But empathy relies on the Platinum Rule: Treat others the way they want (and need) to be treated.
Doing that doesn’t mean you’re giving in when your child misbehaves or wants something. It also doesn’t mean you’re being overprotective. It means you’re taking your child’s feelings and challenges into account when you try to help. It puts the focus on understanding what kids really need from you—instead of what you’d need if you were struggling.
2. Don’t just assume. Ask.
Kids often give nonverbal cues about how they’re feeling or what they’re struggling with. It’s important to be sensitive to those cues. But it’s just as important to ask about what your child is feeling and needs. Giving kids a chance to talk and explain their point of view helps them feel heard. It also gets them involved in finding solutions.
3. Set aside frustrations and judgment.
Whether your child is having a tantrum or telling you about a tough situation at school, you’re going to have your own reaction. Responding with empathy means putting that aside and letting your child’s reaction come first.
That doesn’t mean you have to bury your feelings. It also doesn’t mean you have to agree with your child or accept bad behavior. It just means you’re hearing kids out and trying to see things through their eyes.
4. Use “I” statements.
“You” statements can make kids feel defensive and not want to listen. “I” statements let you talk about situations without placing blame.
For example, you might be tempted to say, “You’re yelling and not listening to a word I’m saying.” But an “I“ statement is more empathetic: “I know you’re upset. But when you yell and talk over me, I feel like you aren’t hearing what I’m saying.”
5. Don’t jump into “fix it” mode.
Lots of parents and caregivers are wired to jump right into fix-it mode when something is wrong. While that might make you feel better, it doesn’t always help kids feel better. Try to just listen and understand what’s wrong.
Your child might not even want you to fix a problem. That’s something you can talk about after you hear your child out.
6. Take a time-out.
It’s hard to keep your cool when kids take their frustration out on you. It’s OK to tell your child that you need to step away.
You can say something like, “I’m finding it hard not to yell and it seems like you are, too. I think we both need to take some time to cool down. I’m going to step away, but I’ll be back when I’m calmer and better able to listen.” (By doing this, you’re also modeling self-control and self-awareness.)
7. Ask open-ended questions.
An open-ended question is one that can’t be answered in one word or phrase. Using them is empathetic because it lets kids say what’s on their mind without feeling like you’ve already sized up the situation.
For example, asking “What about today was hard for you?” invites more conversation than “Did you have a rough day?” It also helps you explore the problem—and solutions—in more depth.
8. Actively listen.
Empathy requires active listening. That means giving your full attention and listening to the words and tone of voice. When you actively listen, you think through and state in your own words what you think your child has said.
After your child shares something, ask, “Is that what you’re telling me?” Then repeat what you think you heard. That gives kids an opening to correct misunderstandings. It also shows respect for their feelings and perspective.
9. Validate your child’s feelings.
When you empathize, you show kids that they have the right to feel the way they feel. You may not agree with your child’s choices. You may even think your child is overreacting. But it’s important to recognize that your child’s feelings are real. You may not be OK with something your child did or said, but feelings aren’t “right” or “wrong.”