A Walk In Her Shoes.

A Soundtrack By Kendall Church

For Megan...

My topic is about my sister Megan. I want to tell you all about her life and why she is the way she is. I'm going to show you that you can't read a book by its cover because what defines a person isn't just what's on the inside, it's the family they were born into.

"Because of You" by Kelly Clarkson (2004)

Kelly Clarkson - Because Of You
The reason I chose this song was because it describes my mother and father's divorce. This song shows the beginning of my sister's struggles. The song is saying because of your mistakes I will learn not to make the same ones.

Fact: Studies indicate that daughters of divorced parents have a 60-percent higher divorce rate in marriages than children of non-divorced parents, and sons have a 35-percent higher divorce rate.

Source: http://mom.me/parenting/6576-effect-divorced-parents-childs-future-relationships/

"Grey Street" by Dave Matthews (2002)

"Grey Street" - Dave Matthews Band
This song shows the hope that Megan had for our parents to get back together.

Fact: Even US statistics on separation and divorce shows that almost 87% of separated couples proceed to obtain a divorce. The remaining 13% reunite after separation.

Source: http://www.divorcestatistics.info/can-separated-couples-reconcile.html

"Angel" by Sarah McLachlan (1997)

In the Arms of the Angel Sarah McLachlan Lyrics
After Megan realized that our parents were not getting back together she tried to find other things to make her happy; but just like the words in this song she kept getting knocked down over and over again. Finally, she gave in to the lies and hatred.

Fact: In family life, divorce permanently weakens the relationship between children and parents. It leads to destructive ways of handling conflict, diminishes social competence, leads to early loss of virginity, and it diminishes young adults’ sense of masculinity or femininity. It leads to more trouble in dating, to more cohabitation, to higher divorce rates later in life, to higher expectations of divorce, and to less desire for children.

Source: http://worldcongress.org/wcf2_spkrs/wcf2_fagan.htm

"A Team" by Ed Sheeran (2011)

Ed Sheeran - The A Team [Official Video]
When Megan was knocked down she was picked up by her friends, they showed her how to get rid of the pain and sadness; but only briefly. She started doing drugs in high school. She started with smoking weed and drinking, which led to other drugs.

Fact: Teenage drug abuse is a serious issue with serious consequences. Teens that use drugs are more likely to engage in risky sexual behaviors, develop more intense substance abuse problems and develop a host of health complications.

Source: http://www.caron.org/Understanding-Addiction/Teen-Addiction-Abuse/Drug-Abuse?gclid=CO-6rr_nuskCFcKWgQodpz4PEQ

"The Reason" by Hoobastank (2003)

Hoobastank - The Reason lyrics
By the time she was twenty-three Megan gave birth to two children, Braedon and Eli, within four years of each other. Her sons gave her new-found hope. She decided to change her life for them.

Fact: Studies have shown that consumption of illegal drugs during pregnancy can result in miscarriage, low birth weight, premature labor, placental abruption, fetal death, and even maternal death.

Source: http://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-health/illegal-drugs-during-pregnancy/

"My Immortals" by Evanescence (2000)

Evanescence - My Immortal
At nine days old Eli passed away with a heart defect that the doctors found too late. This threw Megan off the deep end; she no longer resembled my sister, she was a stranger that was in desperate need of help. This is when we finally sent her to a rehab facility.

Fact: Researchers at the University of York in the United Kingdom found that parents whose children died before their first birthday faced an increased risk of early death themselves. Their study followed more than 1,000 bereaved parents from the U.K. and found that parents in Scotland were more than twice as likely to die in the first 15 years following their child's death as parents who had not lost a child.

Source: http://abcnews.go.com/Health/grieving-parents-risk-early-death-study/story?id=14467734

"Hello" by Adele (2015)

Adele - Hello
After Eli's death Megan went to many different rehab facilities. none of which worked until we sent her to The Bowery Mission in New York. She was in a very low place and she had given up on herself. I feel like this song relates to my sister because it shows the struggles of the inner-self and how we apologizing over and over again to ourselves for the mistakes we've made.

Fact: Recovering from drug addiction often involves at least one relapse, and many users will backslide multiple times. A lot of addicts will enter addiction treatment programs again and again without achieving long-term sobriety.

Source: http://luxury.rehabs.com/drug-addiction/recovery-statistics/

"Keep Holding on" by Avril Lavigne (2007)

Avril Lavigne - Keep Holding On
This last song is from me to my sister. I want her to know that no matter what she has done or what she will do, I will always be there for her. Everyone makes mistakes but there is always hope to turn your life around.

Fact: Change is never easy. The addict will probably accuse you of abandoning them, put guilt trips on you, or even threaten you. You must realize that this is because the addict does not want the current situation to change, no matter what they say. They need your help to continue the way they have been living, and losing you means they may have to face up to their problems they have been avoiding with their substance of choice. You are not responsible for them, their choices, or their actions, only your own.

Source: http://www.newbridgefoundation.org/do-you-love-someone-who-is-struggling-with-addiction/