20/20 Vision
"The lens we choose transforms the way we look at things."
Back in January, I sent out the musing, Miracles from Molecules about creating greatness wherever you can find it. A concept that goes hand and hand with this is that you will find what you look for.
Similar to practicing gratitude, if you put on the lens of “I’m looking for what my children are doing right,” you will find a treasure trove of things (respectful, resilient, patient, kind, helpful, curious, empathetic, etc.) to lift up as evidence of their inherent greatness. Our children need to be told, in exquisite detail, the qualities that make them unique. And sometimes those qualities are hidden behind intense, not so positive behaviors that if channeled correctly will be of service in their future!
All that being said, shifting the lens you look through isn’t always easy to adopt. Especially when the struggles to juggle everything life throws at you overwhelm your practice of intentional noticing. Maybe you need to enlist some help with this task- write yourself a note and tape it to your refrigerator; assign each family member a person to observe and have them share their noticings at dinner; teach your family about NHA and enlist them to notice the great things that others are doing.
One of the benefits of looking for what children are doing right is that it really helps me to make it through the difficult days. I’m happier, my children are happier, and my relationships are stronger. Win-Win-Win!
Amy
Perspective is power
Where sweet can come from sour
You can see rain
or You can see a rainbow
You can see a roadblock
or You can find a new way to go
Which lens shapes your view?
Does it only see the bad or
Can it see the beautiful too?
Nuggets you may have missed:
For the Greater Good- principles 8, 9, & 10
Innate Greatness- principles 6 & 7
Wings Principles 4 & 5
- Fulfilling a Fundamental Need Principles 1-3
- Nutshells and Challenges
- Resets
- Miracles from Molecules
- Be our Guest
- What will your legacy be?
- Gilda
- Holding Space
- Nuance
- Groundhog Day
- Start Here- NHA
- Making the World More Just
- Keeping your Ship Afloat
- Do Your Eyes Light Up?
- WINGS
- Family Gap Plan
- Fulfilling a Fundamental Need
- Building Inner Wealth
- Who We Are