Carter Lomax Middle School
Dates to Remember
All of October-Socktober Donations
10/17 Urban Air Back to School Bash Fundraiser
10/19 6th grade Texas A&M Field Trip - Team Rice
10/22-10/26 Red Ribbon Week
10/25 5th grade San Jacinto College Field Trip- Team U of H, UNT- C.Gonzalez
10/26 5th grade San Jacinto College Field Trip- Team Baylor, UNT- E. Gonzalez
10/30 5th grade San Jacinto College Field Trip- Team Texas Tech, UNT- Martinez
10/30 Chick-fil-A Spirit Night @ 5-8
10/31-11/01 Pumpkin Run
TEXAS A&M FIELD TRIPS
Team Rice students are turning Focus Areas green!
Socktober Collections Begin!
RED RIBBON WEEK IS OCTOBER 22-26
The spelling bee is coming up!
Weekly Parent Connect
Befriending our feelings gives us the opportunity to make a choice to see things differently. When we are gripped by an emotion, our perception is narrowed significantly in order to support that emotion. "Whenever something doesn't work out the way you thought it would, instead of thinking that something went wrong, see it as something that went unexpectedly well, but for reasons that are not yet apparent." In other words, we can change our story.
The Adult Journey
Naming whatever it is you are feeling provides the opportunity to tame it and the choice to reframe it. The opportunity to choose different outcomes happens with the naming process, but the action itself requires we befriend the feeling we have named. Befriending our feelings can be difficult. When we allow ourselves to be aware of a feeling, we often attempt to keep it quietly off in the distance. In actuality, welcoming our feelings is the only thing that allows our feelings to move on. When we welcome our feelings it allows us to balance our life. We balance our nervous system, our personality and our lower and higher thinking centers of our brain. Our entire being is integrated which empowers us to move through life with grace and acceptance. In short, naming our feelings allow us to adapt to what life offers instead of fighting it.
Conscious Discipline Twist: What we resist persists. What we accept evaporates. We might have life themes or stories that are expressed as, “trust no one,” “being right equals being safe,” or “pleasing others equals love.” Whatever your story is, only the underlying feeling is true. Name the feeling, befriend it and get busy rewriting. Think of something in your life you find fearful at this moment. “Scared” might not be the word you would choose, so consider the many cousins of scared (concerned, worried, anxious). Imagine holding the feeling safely in your arms, keeping it in your back pocket or putting it in your purse as you go about your day. Simply allowing the feeling to be with you until its integrative work is done is the gift of the feeling.
This applies to kids by responding to the underlying message of the child’s emotion first, then addressing the behavioral needs of the situation.
Anger and Frustration’s message is someone or something is getting in my way. When a child pushes another child off the chair, choose to address the theme of the feeling instead of saying, “Was that nice? What is our rule about pushing?” You might say, “You wanted a turn with the computer and didn’t know the words to use. When you want a turn, tap Erin on the shoulder, call her name and say, ‘Erin, I would like a turn on the computer.’”
Happiness and Calm’s message is about extending and sharing. When a child is excited about the lizard she found, choose to address the theme instead of saying, “Don’t bring that thing in this house! It’s great you found it but you are scaring it to death. Go put it back outside.” You might say, “What a find! Tell me about it as we work together to keep the lizard safe.”
Awareness is the key to regulation. The entire process teaches us a new way to handle or perceive the original trigger.
*This discussion is based on Becky Bailey’s new book: Managing Emotional Mayhem and adapted from Larry Slocum’s School Family Minute.
Parent coordinator/5th grade counselor,
6th grade counselor/bilingual
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