Eternal Rest Funeral Home


Love & Memory

"When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure."

-Author Unknown

Individual Factors & Challenges

"When a loved one dies, grieving family members and friends often are confronted with dozens of decisions about the funeral — all of which must be made quickly and often under great emotional duress. What kind of funeral should it be? What funeral provider should you use? Should you bury or cremate the body, or donate it to science? What are you legally required to buy? What other arrangements should you plan? And, as callous as it may sound, how much is it all going to cost? Each year, Americans grapple with these and many other questions as they spend billions of dollars arranging more than 2 million funerals for family members and friends. The increasing trend toward pre‑need planning (Keefe Funeral Home, 2014)."

— When people make funeral arrangements in advance

— Suggests that many consumers want to compare prices and services so that ultimately, the funeral reflects a wise and well‑informed purchasing decision, as well as a meaningful one.

Keefe Funeral Home. (2014). Keefe Funeral Homes. Retrieved from

Family Factors & Challenges

"This is a naturally difficult time, compounded by the fact that you are faced with many decisions that must be made as you begin to plan the funeral. You may feel overwhelmed by these decisions. When you are able to make informed choices, you are empowered with the important information needed to plan a meaningful funeral (Mercer Funeral Home, 2014)."

"This is not the time to deny your need to mourn and embrace painful feelings of grief in the coming days. You may feel deep sadness as you plan this funeral and begin to acknowledge the reality that someone who you love has died. But when all is said and done, you will feel deep satisfaction that you helped plan a meaningful tribute or ceremony for someone who meant so much to your own life, and you will be on the path to a healthy grieving process (Mercer Funeral Home, 2014)."

Making Informed Funeral Choices

"Don Thumbnal After selecting a funeral home, you and your family will choose the type of funeral service to hold, what will happen to the body and where it will be laid to rest. How a body will be cared for after death is an important decision. Whether you choose burial or cremation, you can use elements of ceremony to honor the life of your loved one and to allow you and your family to say goodbye in a meaningful way (Mercer Funeral Home, 2014)."


Mercer Funeral Home. (2014). Mercer Funeral Home: Planning a Funeral: Meaningful Choices. Retrieved from

Cultural Factors & Challenges

"Cultural and social changes have made death as challenging as life. We live in a world where some individual’s most important relationships may not be recognized after death. While it is easy to assume that this is reserved for gay and lesbian couples whose unions may not yet be recognized or legal in the state in which the live, there are many other couples who may have similar challenges--couples who have been living together, partners who were not accepted by families, ex-girlfriends, ex-boyfriends, step-parents, and other situations too numerous to categorize (Parthemore Funeral Home & Cremation Services, Inc., 2014)."

"Many experts call this concept disenfranchised grief. This type of grief comes in many forms, including the loss of a lover, loss of an ex-spouse or the loss of a friend. According to Dr. Earl A. Grollman, 'Each loss has singular consequences and complications. Different losses require different coping styles and different coping mechanisms' (Parthemore Funeral Home & Cremation Services, Inc., 2014)."

"As we continue to charter new territory with new relationships and living arrangements, it is especially important to be mindful of individuals who may be quietly grieving and who may need additional support to deal with their loss. Often times, those people are not the ones delivering the eulogy or standing in the official receiving line at the funeral home. They sometimes cannot even attend the traditional funeral service—either by choice or by request of the family—but their absence means little to the power of their grief (Parthemore Funeral Home & Cremation Services, Inc., 2014)."

"Almost all of us know or know of someone in a non-traditional relationship, whether it be a parent, sibling, friend, colleague or someone in the neighborhood. Think of these people when a partner’s death occurs and be there for them in meaningful ways. “When loving partners die, not only is there the absence of those that were a part of their daily lives, but often a lack of sympathy and conspicuous silence of friends, family and colleagues,” reminds Dr. Grollman. When a loss is not universally validated or valued, the individual is more likely to suffer ongoing challenges dealing with their grief (Parthemore Funeral Home & Cremation Services, Inc., 2014)."

Parthemore Funeral Home & Cremation Services, Inc. (2014). Parthemore Funeral Home & Cremation Services, Inc. • New Cumberland, Pennsylvania. Retrieved from

Economic Factors & Challenges

"Funerals rank among the most expensive purchases many consumers will ever make. A traditional funeral, including a casket and vault, costs about $6,000, although “extras” like flowers, obituary notices, acknowledgment cards or limousines can add thousands of dollars to the bottom line. Many funerals run well over $10,000 (Keefe Funeral Home, 2014)."

Funeral Costs

Funeral costs include:

"1. Basic services fee for the funeral director and staff
The Funeral Rule allows funeral providers to charge a basic services fee that customers cannot decline to pay. The basic services fee includes services that are common to all funerals, regardless of the specific arrangement. These include funeral planning, securing the necessary permits and copies of death certificates, preparing the notices, sheltering the remains, and coordinating the arrangements with the cemetery, crematory or other third parties. The fee does not include charges for optional services or merchandise (Keefe Funeral Home, 2014)."

2. Charges for other services and merchandise

"These are costs for optional goods and services such as transporting the remains; embalming and other preparation; use of the funeral home for the viewing, ceremony or memorial service; use of equipment and staff for a graveside service; use of a hearse or limousine; a casket, outer burial container or alternate container; and cremation or interment (Keefe Funeral Home, 2014)."

3. Cash advances

"These are fees charged by the funeral home for goods and services it buys from outside vendors on your behalf, including flowers, obituary notices, pallbearers, officiating clergy, and organists and soloists. Some funeral providers charge you their cost for the items they buy on your behalf. Others add a service fee to their cost. The Funeral Rule requires those who charge an extra fee to disclose that fact in writing, although it doesn’t require them to specify the amount of their markup. The Rule also requires funeral providers to tell you if there are refunds, discounts or rebates from the supplier on any cash advance item (Keefe Funeral Home, 2014)."

X Calculating the Actual Cost

"The funeral provider must give you an itemized statement of the total cost of the funeral goods and services you have selected when you are making the arrangements. If the funeral provider doesn't know the cost of the cash advance items at the time, he or she is required to give you a written “good faith estimate.” This statement also must disclose any legal, cemetery or crematory requirements that you purchase any specific funeral goods or services. The Funeral Rule does not require any specific format for this information. Funeral providers may include it in any document they give you at the end of your discussion about funeral arrangements (Keefe Funeral Home, 2014)."


Keefe Funeral Home. (2014). Keefe Funeral Homes. Retrieved from


Keefe Funeral Home. (2014). Keefe Funeral Homes. Retrieved from

Leming, M. R., & Dickinson, G. E. (2011). Understanding dying, death, and bereavement (7th ed.). Belmont, CA: Wadsworth, Cengage Learning.

Mercer Funeral Home. (2014). Mercer Funeral Home: Planning a Funeral: Meaningful Choices. Retrieved from

Parthemore Funeral Home & Cremation Services, Inc. (2014). Parthemore Funeral Home & Cremation Services, Inc. • New Cumberland, Pennsylvania. Retrieved from